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Leaving NO ONE OUT…Leaving NO CHILD BEHIND™

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1. WHAT IS YOUR PROFESSIONAL BACKGROUND?

We are Barristers and Solicitors of the Supreme Court of Nigeria, whose core areas of practice in the last 20 years have been Social Development and Child Rights and Responsibilities, Care and Protection, Childhood Preservation and Family Strengthening, and working with local and international organizations as researchers, facilitators and consultants like UNICEF, the British Council, UNFPA, SOS Children Villages International, Federal and Lagos, Oyo, Ogun, Osun, Ekiti, Edo, and Delta States Governments, just to mention a few. Law and its social impact on society is critical and foundational to our solutions and our qualification as legal practitioners empowers us to effectively operate in these area?

2. ARE YOU REGISTERED TO TRAIN, ISSUE CERTIFICATE AND CERTIFICATIONS?

Taiwo AKINLAMI Academy is registered with CAC with RC Number 999162 with the following leading objectives, ‘to run an academy as a social enterprise, which provides services in the area of empowerment and enlightenment on the protection and safety of children, law and entrepreneurship, general legal enlightenment, personal and corporate social responsibilities to individuals, families, local and international organizations in the private and public sectors through consulting, short-term and long-term certificate and non-certificate training programs, certifications, conferences and legal representation before and outside the courts of law.

3. WHAT IS YOUR OVERALL SOCIAL BACKGROUND AND PROOF OF THE EFFECTIVENESS OF YOUR SOLUTIONS?  Taiwo AKINLAMI’s divinely-guided and courageous journey from the seemingly insurmountable impact of truncated CHILDHOOD (marked with untold and bizarre forms of abuses, both from the hands of his primary and secondary caregivers) to transformed adulthood began in February 16, 1997, when he had an unforgettable encounter with God.

It is instructive to note that the principles of our Child Rights and Responsibilities, Care and Protection, Childhood Preservation and Family Strengthening solutions, being disseminated today on the many platforms of our Social Empowerment Advocacy™ (SEA)  flow from Taiwo AKINLAMI’s personal  discoveries as he sought total healing from the seemingly insurmountable impact of his truncated CHILDHOOD.

The efficacy of the Taiwo AKINLAMI’s discovered principles were first established for us by his healing experiences before they became subjects of further research efforts to find solutions, which directly speaks to the Third World, considering the fact that his experiences are situated within the Third World and are borne out of our peculiarities as peoples of a developing African continent.

We recognise that in matters of Child Rights and Responsibilities, Care and Protection, Childhood Preservation and Family Strengthening, principles may be universal by nature, but their effective application must be predicated on the Dominant Value System of the people, which must inform their legal and social frameworks, if the noble goal is to achieve enduring results.

Since 1997, over $500,000(Five Hundred Thousand Dollars) in human and financial investment have been made towards Social Empowerment Research efforts, aimed at further testing the efficacy the principles of Taiwo Akinlami’s personal transformation principles and their relevance to today’s Africans in their quest to provide adequate protection for the precious African Child.

4. ARE YOU CERTIFIED TO TRAIN ON CHILD RIGHTS AND RESPONSIBILITIES, CARE AND PROTECTION, CHILDHOOD PRESERVATION AND FAMILY STRENGTHENING?

By the combined implication of paragraphs 1-3 above and most importantly that we are the creator and the intellectual property owner of all of our solutions, under an umbrella name, known as iProtect™, under local and international laws, therefore we are empowered by the law to share and certify interested people to train same solutions.

It is important to note that we are the SOURCE and PIONEER of our solutions in law and indeed and therefore, we are empowered under the law to share same with other interested people and empower them to share with others.

It is important to note that same way the international organizations like John C. Maxwell, Microsoft, FranklinCovey are the intellectual Property owners and pioneers of the solutions on which they certify interested people so Taiwo AKINLAMI Academy owns the intellectual property to her solutions and disseminate same to individuals, local and international organizations and governments as we have done since 1997.

Our intellectual rights over our solutions can be likened to that which inventors have over their inventions. In this case, our solutions are SOCIAL INVENTIONS.

5. WHAT IS THE USE OF YOUR CERTIFICATE/CERTIFICATION?

First, our certificate programs are to certify that you have received the KNOWLEDGE, SKILLS and ATTITUDE, being disseminated by us under our solutions and your effectiveness has been enhanced as primary and secondary caregivers and policy makers in the areas of Child Rights and Responsibilities, Care and Protection, Childhood Preservation and Family Strengthening, thereby creating a new Africa, where THE BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILD is primary considerations in all things.

Our certification programs, are available for those who have completed our certificate programs. They are certify our participants to disseminate our programs, which the intellectual property we own under the law.

Our certificates may also be presented when it is requested anywhere as the basis upon which the certified person trained.

Certificate/Certifications of some members of our Academy and personnel trained by us have been accepted by reputable local and international organizations.

6. WHAT IS YOUR CREDIBILITY

Presently, we have trained over 30,000 parents and caregivers and 15,000 young people from all walks of life, we have about 400 people in our iProtect™ Academy and have worked with hundreds of local and international organizations, like ACSI, AISEN, APEN, NAPPS, UNICEF, the British Council, SOS Children’s Villages International, Facebook, Google and others with outstanding results.

7. WHAT IS YOUR LOCAL AND INTERNATIONAL ACCEPTABILITY QUOTIENT?

Since our solutions on Child Rights and Responsibilities, Care and Protection, Childhood Preservation and Family Strengthening, under the umbrella name of iProtect™, which are globally compliant and locally applicable, are CONSISTENTLY ACCEPTED and APPLAUDED as RELEVANT, EFFECTIVE and APPLICABLE in our field by REFERENCE, REPUTABLE, LOCAL and INTERNATIONAL ORGANIZATIONS and ARMS OF GOVERNMENT mentioned in paragraphs 1 & 8 above, it is therefore our ARDENT and JUSTIFIABLE BELIEF that same should be accepted to INDIVIDUALS, GOVERNMENTS and ORGANIZATIONS, who seek the advantage of an home-grown and applicable solutions to an internationally recognized subject matter of Child Rights and Responsibilities, Care and Protection, Childhood Preservation and Family Strengthening, thereby representing THE BEST INTEREST OF THE PRECIOUS AFRICAN CHILD at all times.

8. #THETASTEOFTHEPUDDING

Our greatest advantage today is that ‘the taste of the pudding is always in the eating’ and the number one life transformed by our solutions is that of Taiwo AKINLAMI, our principal.

Above all, our greatest testimony is the lives of old and young, who have been transformed by our tested solutions.

Here are some testimonies of some of the reputable individuals and organizations, who have experienced our solutions.

‘Thank you again for all of your hard work in facilitating our 1st ever Child Protection awareness event for school counsellors. IT WAS INDEED A SUCCESS. Thanks to your participation and IMPRESSIVE FACILITATION SKILLS!  COMPLEX AND SENSITIVE CHILD PROTECTION MATERIALS were put forward in a PRACTICAL way that ENABLED PEOPLE to THINK CRITICALLY about their OWN RESPONSIBILITIES TO SAFEGUARD CHILDREN.’ Andrea Watkins, The British Council Interim Regional Child Protection Manager for Middle East & North Africa (MENA) & Sub-Saharan Africa (SSA)(2016)

‘I commend your presentation. It was backed up with so much passion. We all found it very inspiring and will definitely recommend you to others.’ Dr. (Mrs.) C.O. Ogunsanya, Managing Director, Oxbridge Tutorial College, G.R.A. Ikeja and Chairman, Association of Private Educators of Nigeria (APEN) Board of Trustees

‘I like your approach to Child Protection; it is highly philosophical.’  Mor Dioum, Director of The Victoria Climbe Foundation, United Kingdom, Legal Practitioner and leading Child Protection Specialist

Taiwo Akinlami, you blew my mind with your speech and knowledge. I salute you for standing up for children. I am in awe!’

‘Taiwo Akinlami is one of the most inspiring speakers of our times. I still remember his speech of three years ago like it was yesterday! Wow Afrika’ Dr. Tererai Trent, Educationist and Founder Tinogona Foundation, Zimbabwe/USA.

Telephone: 2348033620843, 08056979605│ W: www.taiwoakinlami.com│ Blog: taiwoakinlamiblog.com│Twitter: @taiwoakinlami │Instagram: @taiwoakinlami │Emails: principal@taiwoakinlami.com, ask@taiwoakinlami.com

 

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Extract from my book for Teenagers and Young Adults:  S.A.F.E™ (Securing A Friendly & Protective Environment) for YOU: 120 Daily Tips

TIP 31: BEING YOUNG DOES NOT MEAN YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED TO SPEAK UP AGAINST SUSPICION OR ACTUAL ABUSE(3)

‘We must take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented.’ Elie Wiesel

Thank you for joining me here today. I hope we are learning and our eyes are being opened to the steps you can take to secure your own protection from all forms of abuse.

Today, I bring you the conclusion our nineteenth foundational principle: BEING YOUNG DOES NOT MEAN YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED TO SPEAK UP AGAINST SUSPICION OR ACTUAL ABUSE.

I will share with you a line of thought that I believe may help us drive home the whole issue of silence and the culture, which promotes it and the feeling of shame upon which it stands.

This is the line of though and I charge you for follow me closely. Now, if my bag, shoes, wristwatch and other valuable are stolen, I am encouraged to speak up. In fact I speak up and I do not get the treatment of shame from anybody in the society. In fact the society feel for me and they want the thief to be caught. In this case the society understands that I should not be the object of shame because I am not in any way responsible for stealing from myself.

Now here is my question, why is the case different when it is my virtue and dignity that is stolen through abuse. These virtue and dignity are so invaluable that once they are lost, it is only by divine intervention that they can be recoverable. So how come the society does not allow me to feel ashamed concerning talking about tangible valuables, which are easily replaceable, but expects me to be ashamed about my irreplaceable virtues and dignity, which abuse of any form take away from me? Who should the society be eager to apprehend, the person, who stole my valuables or the person, who stole my ‘invaluables’? Could it be that our society values tangible materials, which are temporal and perishable above intangible materials of virtue and dignity, which are eternal?

This is my charge and conclusion to you today. It is time to swim against the tide of the culture of silence, which is empowered by the feeling of shame. It is shameful that the society thinks that it is the abused that should feel shame instead of the abuser. It is shameful that the abuser is preserved from shame because the society believes that the abused should also be ashamed. Therefore to save the abused from shame, the abuser goes free, roaming the street, looking for the next possible victims to devour.

My fervent prayer today is that you will never fall victim of any form of abuse. I believe that if you take this 120 days journey with us, you are on your way to being free from all forms of abuse. But if for whatever reason you are abused, you must refuse to be ashamed.

Shame does not belong to you. It belongs to the abuser. He/she must not be allowed to go free because of shame.  Tell every caregiver, who cares to listen that shame does not belong to you but to the abusers and he/she must be made to face the shame.

This is a very important principle that you must hold very dearly. You must take it as the responsibility and mission of your generation to right the wrong of shaming the innocent and releasing the abuser from justice.

You are young, but you are not too young to change things and help our society to think straight and destroy the culture of celebrating abuse on the altar of shame and stigma.

Finally, I will have to rest this case here and give you room to think about it for the rest of the day, week and month and digest the information shared in the last 3 days for your personal use and the use of those around you.

The THINK Factor:

I think it is time to take your personal journal and write down the top 5 lessons you have learnt in the last 3 days addressing this 19th fundamental principle: BEING YOUNG DOES NOT MEAN YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED TO SPEAK UP AGAINST SUSPICION OR ACTUAL ABUSE. To go over it again and again until it sinks in your mind and be ready to practice same from today. Do not forget to share your lessons with your friends and your parents and other trusted caregivers.

I am Taiwo ‘ODINAKACHUWU’ AKINLAMI, Total Childhood Management and Child Development Expert, 2348033620843, 08056979605 W: http://www.taiwoakinlami.com B: taiwoakinlamiblog.com T: @taiwoakinlami E: Principal@taiwoakinlami.com

 

​Nigeria’s 57th Independence Celebrations: What Does the Nigerian Child Celebrate?

As we celebrate the 57th flag independence of our great nation, Nigeria, I think there is no better determinant of the state of our nation than the state of her precious children. According to Dr. Nelson Mandela, ‘there can be no keener revelation of a society’s soul than the way in which it treats its children.’

Dr. Nelson Mandela is very rights. And I think taking a careful look at the state of the precious Nigerian Child under this government and successive governments since our flag independence scores our society very low. Permit me to submit that in Nigeria, like many African, we take only take mental notice of children and not actual notice. Mental notice is never deliberate; it is an accidental affair, often authored by circumstances not within our control either by virtues of our ignorance or negligence. Actual notice speaks of conscious efforts of caregivers, aimed at achieving adequate care. What is CARE in the context? It is to anticipate the needs and threats to a child and make adequate preparation to meet the needs and mitigate the threats before they arise.

The report on Violence Against Children in Nigeria of the United Nations Children’s Fund (UNICEF), National Population Commission of Nigeria and supported by the US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, which published the findings from a National Survey in 2014 and launched in 2014 found that ‘there is a high prevalence of violence against children in Nigeria.’

The survey, which provides, for the first time, national estimates that describe the magnitude and nature of sexual, physical and emotional violence experienced by under-18 females and males in Nigeria submits as follows: approximately 6 out of every 10 children experience some form of violence; one in two children experience physical violence; one in four girls and one in ten boys experience sexual violence; one in six girls and one in five boys experience emotional violence. It is also found that children are exposed to multiple forms of abuse, therefore ‘violence against children is rarely an isolated incident.’

The report found that ‘children are not disclosing violence and not seeking or receiving services.’ It is further disclosed that children are not disclosing abuses because they will not be believed. 

The disposition of children is a reflection of our culture of silence when it comes to addressing the issues of abuse, which children are exposed to.

In response to troubling findings of the survey, priority actions were developed to stem the ugly tide of the present situation of the precious Nigerian child. The lead priority action is establishment of system’s approach to the protection of our precious children.

Beyond the report, it is today an open secret that Nigeria holds the world record of the number of children out of school. Nigeria is responsible for fifty percent of the total number of children out of school in the world. The BCC, in July 2017 reported as follows, ‘acknowledging the scale of the problem the education ministry’s permanent secretary Adamu Hussaini said it was “sad to note” that Nigeria had 10.5 million children out of school.’ The other question is that what kind of education are the children in school receiving?

I wonder what the future hold for a nation, which cannot educate her children. I wonder what the future holds for a country, which is not at war on the face of it but beats war-torn countries like Syria, Somalia, Libya, Yeme, Iran and other in the number of children out of school. It seems to me we are immersed in another kind of war, which our handlers are yet to define and the world is yet to take the needed and critical look at
Having being on the field for close to 20 years, pleading the cause of the Nigerian child, it is my conclusion that the foundation of every response must be enlightenment. Thus I say, ‘enlightenment is superior to enforcement,’ noting that both as primary and secondary caregivers, we treat children as we see them and we see them according to our dominant value system as a people.

I think the foregoing must form a critical part of our concern as we spare a thought for our precious children as we celebrate our 57th independence.

While we must hope for the best for the precious Nigerian child and commend present efforts at preserving his/her present and future as we mark our flag independence, I wonder if I can really from my conscience, wish the Nigerian child happy independence.

But I reaching to the deepest level of my heart, I am hopeful for the Nigeria hope. It is in fact hope against hope but resting on the word of Clare Boothe Luce ‘that there are no hopeless situations, only hopeless people.’ In the spirit of this hope, I wish the Nigeria Child, Happy but Sobering Independent day.

I am Taiwo ‘ODINAKACHUWU’ AKINLAMI, Total Childhood Management and Child Development Expert, 2348033620843, 08056979605 W: http://www.taiwoakinlami.com B: taiwoakinlamiblog.com T: @taiwoakinlami E: Principal@taiwoakinlami.com

​To My UNBORN But AWAITED Child: What World AWAITS You? A World Where Children Are Not SAFE? A World of #6IGBONLABOYS? 

I guess for 11 (eleven) you have been trapped in my loins, at least if I begin to count from the day I took the wife of my youth, Oluwafunmilayo as a wife… 

When you come, you shall be to me and your mother the child of our old age, yet our first, as I now approach 50 years of age and I do not consider your mother a young woman by any standard…At least not as young as when I took her as a wife eleven (11) years ago till death do us part. I think I have started living in the second half of life… 
Quite a lot of physical, spiritual and medical efforts have been put into your invitation to this realm…Yet, it seems you are taking your time with the Maker… 
I have however never been troubled that you are taking your time, neither is your mother… We have chosen by the grace of God,  who strengthens us not to lose any iota of sleep about what seems to be your late arrival according to human permutation or judgement…As far as I am concerned your arrival is in the hand of God and there is nothing human worries and sleepnessness can do to accelerate same.  That is why I christened you ODINAKACHUKWU few years ago… 
We have also realised that whatever sleep we choose to lose now will be a waste of life…And life, once wasted,  would it be restored? I think not…And why must we lose life for what we have no control over… Over our sanity, we have control today under God and this is one control we do not intend to lose… I am sure it is a control you will be proud we maintain when you finally arrive here… 
It has become necessary to write to you today as I know that one day you will read this whether I am here or gone to where you are expected from… I know missing each other on the way is also a possibility…Therefore, I better leave a message for you… 
I intend to do this as a series, sharing with you what I believe I need you to know to make your life easier than mine… 
My Dear Odinakachukwu, I do not know your gender and it does not any matter to me… I know gender only speaks of difference and neither superiority nor inferiority, as some backward societies will have us believe… 
I wrap up this introduction to our discussion with mixed feelings…I am disturbed in my spirit,  soul and body the kind of world we are working with all arduous tenacity to bring you into… I sometimes feel and ask myself if we should even bother you,  considering the labyrinthe rubbles of disorder our world is burried in today…Like Jesus Christ said in Gethesemane and as a man who woman, whose life is surrendered to the Father would say in the midst of Hard Moral Choices, I often find myself saying in total submission, ‘Your will,  not my will…’
Hard Moral Choices? Yes Odinakachukwu…What is Hard Moral Choices? Odinaka, they are choices,  which benefits only outweighs its woes in the potential…Such choices are only identified by the initiated,  who have developed a sight above s/he nose…Such choices are made with all the caution in the person making it… 
So my dear Odinaka, I consider bringing Children to this world today as a critical part of my Hard Moral Choices Theory… Why? It has been my most considered,  but troubling opinion as a Total Child Development Expert of over 20(twenty) years that the real joy of having children is not merely bringing them to this world, it is how they are raised or the values with which they are raised… 
Anyway,  I will be back to this discussion soon but let me share a bit of current affairs with you butressing the unthinkable disorder I point out earlier… 
It has been 43 days since six(6) school children were kidnapped from Model School, Igbonla,  Epe, Lagos and yet they have not been found… In fact there is deafening and betraying silence on the part of those whose constitutional responsibility it is to secure the lives and property of citizens… 
As it is today,  these innocent ones,  whose parents send on a mission to receive education but today in the captivity of kidnappers… 
I am also informed that it was the second visit of the kidnappers to the school…It has also been gathered now that as the kidnappers wrote a letter to Igbonla,  heralding their operations, another school has received such letter… 
It my pain today, my dear Odinaka that we live in a nation, which has lost total respect for the dignity of human person and life and her invaluable world… 
Though,  you are not yet here,  I do not pray to be in the shoes of the parents of The Igbonla 6 as we have come to know them… 
Again, my dear ODINAKACHUKWU, if I ask you, where would you prefer, where you are right now, where your Angels behold the face of the Father in immeasurable peace or here where things are tumbling down in cacaphonous torrents… 
Is this invitation being extended to you even about you or about us? Here I surrender my conscience for a thorough search by his All-seeing Maker… 
Good morning Odinaka, I will be back sooner than you think… Do have an INSPIRED day with the FATHER.  
Think the FAMILY…Thin the CHILD…Think TODAY…Think the FUTURE™
(C) 2017 by Taiwo ‘ODINAKACHUWU’ AKINLAMI (The Preacher) All Rights Reserved T: 2348033620843, 08056979605 W: http://www.taiwoakinlami.com B: http://www.taiwoakinlamiblog.com T: @taiwoakinlami 

​AS SCHOOLS REOPEN: LOOK AT ME  STRAIGHT IN THE EYES AND TELL ME WE HAVE SECURED THE PROTECTION OF OUR PRECIOUS CHILDREN. 

Enough of leaving the protection of our precious children to CHANCE…As schools resume, have you asked if your chidren’s school have a Child Protection Policy on which every member of Staff is trained or should I ask you, does your children’s school have a Child Protection Policy?

Protection of our children in schools are only guaranteed by the existence of a Child Protection System, codified into a policy on which every single member of staff is trained, challenging their Dominant Value System to align with THE BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILD.
The protection of the most precious entity in our lives, our children must not be left to CHANCE….
If we cannot answer my question in the affirmative, then we may not be able to say in clear terms that our precious children are safe under the custody of the secondary caregivers we have registered them with as schools…
The question to ask as schools resume is not to ask if our precious children are safe in schools…The real question to ask is what professional and globally-tested measure our children’s school deliberately put in place to ensure the protection of our precious children…
The standard is higher in Lagos State where by the Executive Order of the Lagos State government of 2016, it is now MANDATORY for all Child Focused Organizations in Lagos State to adopt a child protection policy and train all members of staff on same….By the way, The Preacher was a consultant to the Lagos State Government as a Subject Matter Expert.
It is important to note that the number one responsibility of a school is not to teach but to protect. This is true because research has shown that any form of abuse to children is a huge threat to learning. 
Therefore the number one threat to all the huge investment we make in the education of our precious children is abuse. If the foregoing is so, it therefore means that the protection of our precious children must be of mutual priority to both schools and parents…
Schools invest in what they consider important and inevitable to the well-being of the children under their care and that is highly commendable but alas, as important as Child Protection is,  it attracts little or no budget from schools.
While we make preparations and assign budgets for everything like renovations, school uniform, etc, our 20 years field experiences, working with schools of all grades and classes both at the private and public sectors reveal that most schools leave the most important  matter, which is child protection to total chance and blind hope…
The tide must change, thus I, The Preacher decided to share this brief intervention with you all this day.
You may inbox me on this platform if you believe we should take this discussion further either as parents or school leaders…
May God grant us all wisdoms to provide Protection for our precious children in accordance with the requirements of the day, knowing that Enlightenment is Superior to Enforcement… Enlightenment is the tested key to protection the through  prevention…Prevention is said to be better than cure. Why? The impact of any form of abuse on our precious children is eternal, except there is divine intervention.
I hereby request to wrap up this discussion here, having declared what I genuinely believe to be the eternal counsel of the mist high God, who gave us our precious children as gifts to humanity and gave us the Glorious Gospel according to IPROTECT to ensure their protection and preservation for the reason for which they are created. 
Do have an INSPIRED week.
Think the FAMILY…Thin the CHILD…Think TODAY…Think the FUTURE™

(C) 2017 by Taiwo ‘ODINAKACHUWU’ AKINLAMI (The Preacher) All Rights Reserved T: 2348033620843, 08056979605 W: http://www.taiwoakinlami.com B: http://www.taiwoakinlamiblog.com T: @taiwoakinlami

​To My UNBORN But AWAITED Child: What World AWAITS You? A World Where Children Are Not SAFE? A World of #The6IGBONLABOY? 

I guess for 11 (eleven) you have been trapped in my loins, at least if I begin to count from the day I took the wife of my youth, Oluwafunmilayo as a wife… 

When you come, you shall be to me and your mother the child of our old age, yet our first, as I now approach 50 years of age and I do not consider your mother a young woman by any standard…At least not as young as when I took her as a wife eleven (11) years ago till death do us part. I think I have started living in the second half of life…

Quite a lot of physical, spiritual and medical efforts have been put into your invitation to this realm…Yet, it seems you are taking your time with the Maker…

I have however never been troubled that you are taking your time, neither is your mother… We have chosen by the grace of God,  who strengthens us not to lose any iota of sleep about what seems to be your late arrival according to human permutation or judgement…As far as I am concerned your arrival is in the hand of God and there is nothing human worries and sleepnessness can do to accelerate same.  That is why I christened you ODINAKACHUKWU few years ago…
We have also realised that whatever sleep we choose to lose now will be a waste of life…And life, once wasted,  would it be restored? I think not…And why must we lose life for what we have no control over… Over our sanity, we have control today under God and this is one control we do not intend to lose… I am sure it is a control you will be proud we maintain when you finally arrive here…

It has become necessary to write to you today as I know that one day you will read this whether I am here or gone to where you are expected from… I know missing each other on the way is also a possibility…Therefore, I better leave a message for you…

I intend to do this as a series, sharing with you what I believe I need you to know to make your life easier than mine…
My Dear Odinakachukwu, I do not know your gender and it does not any matter to me… I know gender only speaks of difference and neither superiority nor inferiority, as some backward societies will have us believe…

I wrap up this introduction to our discussion with mixed feelings…I am disturbed in my spirit,  soul and body the kind of world we are working with all arduous tenacity to bring you into… I sometimes feel and ask myself if we should even bother you,  considering the labyrinthe rubbles of disorder our world is buried in today…Like Jesus Christ said in Gethesemane and as a man who woman, whose life is surrendered to the Father would say in the midst of Hard Moral Choices, I often find myself saying in total submission, ‘Your will,  not my will…’

Hard Moral Choices? Yes Odinakachukwu…What is Hard Moral Choices? Odinaka, they are choices,  which benefits only outweighs its woes in the potential…Such choices are only identified by the initiated,  who have developed a sight above s/he nose…Such choices are made with all the caution in the person making it…

So my dear Odinaka, I consider bringing Children to this world today as a critical part of my Hard Moral Choices Theory… Why? It has been my most considered,  but troubling opinion as a Total Child Development Expert of over 20(twenty) years that the real joy of having children is not merely bringing them to this world, it is how they are raised or the values with which they are raised…

Anyway,  I will be back to this discussion soon but let me share a bit of current affairs with you butressing the unthinkable disorder I point out earlier…

It has been 43 days since six(6) school children were kidnapped from Model School, Igbonla,  Epe, Lagos and yet they have not been found… In fact there is deafening and betraying silence on the part of those whose constitutional responsibility it is to secure the lives and property of citizens…

As it is today,  these innocent ones,  whose parents send on a mission to receive education but today in the captivity of kidnappers…

I am also informed that it was the second visit of the kidnappers to the school…It has also been gathered now that as the kidnappers wrote a letter to Igbonla,  heralding their operations, another school has received such letter…

It my pain today, my dear Odinaka that we live in a nation, which has lost total respect for the dignity of human person and life and her invaluable world…

Though,  you are not yet here,  I do not pray to be in the shoes of the parents of The Igbonla 6 as we have come to know them…
Again, my dear ODINAKACHUKWU, if I ask you, where would you prefer, where you are right now, where your Angels behold the face of the Father in immeasurable peace or here where things are tumbling down in cacaphonous torrents…
Is this invitation being extended to you even about you or about us?

Here I surrender my conscience for a thorough search by his All-seeing Maker…

Good morning Odinaka, I will be back sooner than you think… Do have an INSPIRED day with the FATHER.

Think the FAMILY…Thin the CHILD…Think TODAY…Think the FUTURE™

(C) 2017 by Taiwo ‘ODINAKACHUWU’ AKINLAMI (The Preacher) All Rights Reserved T: 2348033620843, 08056979605 W: http://www.taiwoakinlami.com B: http://www.taiwoakinlamiblog.com T: @taiwoakinlami

​Father’s Day, Evans and the Rest of Us (1)

I think this piece may not be an easy one to knock out of my mind…As I prepared to enter the labour room of birthing this piece, I perceived a turbulent labour experience but I believe God His support to see me through.

The foregoing fear is predicated upon the facts that I am trying to bring together topics that are best described as strange bed fellows under one roof of discussion.

So, having warned you ahead of time, let me get to the business of creating rhythm out of the cacophony of thoughts.

It is Father’s Day and I celebrate my dear late dad, Alfred Usiola Ayininuola Akinlami. My father was a good man, generous and lover of life. He did not achieve too much in the area of parenting but his mistakes were very honest ones. He only parented after his KIND, after his own upbringing. It is my firm belief is that we treat children the way we see them. We treat them the way we were seeing growing up. And if we were not properly treated or left on our own, the possibility that we will treat our children same way can always be predicted with oracular precision, except we take conscious effort to redirect our lives under God.

Yet from my father I learnt a lot from his mistakes. He died at 82 in 2009 and he remains in my thoughts as the vehicle who conveyed me here to be an unusual blessing to my world. Happy Father’s Dad as you rest in peace.

On Tuesday, February 16, 1997 I met another Father. He is my father in the Lord, who has since then laboured tirelessly and sacrificially till Christ be formed in me. To Christ and him, I owe my life as it is today. Words fail me to give expression to how much I appreciate him, though I can be a man of many words. Pastor Daniel Taiwo Odukaya, a father in more than a million ways, I celebrate you sir. Happy Father’s Day sir.

My Father of the Year is my twin brother, Kehinde Olubunmi Akinlami. I celebrate him for being there for his children, building healthy relationships with his children and always being there for them in words and deeds. He is not only his children’s hero but their delight. He is strict but not abusive; he is tough, yet approachable and friendly. He is at best in using his authority as a way of communicating values through quality relationship with his precious children. He is at total peace with his precious children and I testify that they are at peace with him.

Considering where we came from, I am so glad and amazed at how he has reinvented himself through the help of God to raise his precious children in the positive ways, we were not privileged to be raised.

He has by the grace of God made a commitment not to repeat the errors of our parents in raising his precious children, Oluwaseyitafe and Eyitomilayo. He is a leader of a NEW GENERATION, raising new STANDARDS under Christ. Kehinde Akinlami, Happy Father’s Day, you are a practical example to me that we can rise above our background and give our children a hope and a future we were denied of, noting that Change is an ever present possibility for anyone, is ready to take responsibility.

Fatherhood fascinates me and I have discovered it to be an institution where as a father, you have nothing to offer but your values through example as a source and sustainer, first to your children and humanity. I have also come to understand that there are many who have children but yet are not fathers and there are also many without children, who are yet fathers.
Therefore it is my conclusion that you are not a father because you have children. You are  only a father because you can give your children the priceless legacy of positive values through an unimpeachable example of a life, being well spent.

I think I should wrap this up here today. But you have not talked about Evans…Yes…That is a very keen observation and you are very right…Please permit me to bring him into the mix tomorrow.

I am conscious of Reader’s Fatigue, which may be a jolly good accompaniment of long treatises l am often tempted to write.

I will be here tomorrow to bring this piece to an end. Do have an INSPIRED Father’s Day honouring Fathers and Father Figures(including mothers, who played the roles of fathers, eloquently well in the lives of their children due to sundry reasons, ranging from good, bad to ugly) in our lives.

Think the FAMILY…Thin the CHILD…Think TODAY…Think the FUTURE™

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