Culled from our Instructional Manuals: S.A.F.E™ for YOU

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“During sexual abuse, children feel and incorporate the rage, pain, shame, and sense of perversion that the perpetrator is projecting. They take these feelings into the very core of themselves, and they are badly traumatized by the emotions surrounding the assault, as well as by the assault itself.” Renee FREDRICKSON

 My dearly beloved young ones, it gives me great pleasure to continue this discussion with you today. 

Today, I want to quickly run you through what the law says about sexual abuse. It is important to note that until the law says an act or omission is an abuse, it does not become an abuse.

So what does the law of Nigeria say about Child Sexual Abuse, remembering that a child is anyone below the age of 18 years old?

Let us turn to the Child’s Right Act in Sections 31 & 32 of the Child’s Rights Act, 2003, which provides as follows:

31.—(1) No person, shall have sexual intercourse with a child.

(2) A person who contravenes the provision of Subsection (1) of this section commits an offence of rape and is liable on conviction to imprisonment for life.

(3) Where a person is charged with an offence under this section, it is immaterial that—(a) the offender believed the person to be of or above the age of eighteen years; or (b) the sexual intercourse was with the consent of the child.

32.—(1) A person who sexually abuses or sexually exploits a child in any manner not already mentioned under this Part of this Act commits an offence.

(2) A person who commits an offence under Subsection (1) of this section is liable on conviction to imprisonment for a term of fourteen years.

Now, let me discuss with you in details the Sexual Abuse and all that relate to it:

  • SCOPE? Any form of sexual involvement with a child (anybody below 18) is an abuse and therefore an offence.
  • READY? Sex is not meant for children. You must not allow anyone to touch you either fellow children/teenagers or adults. Anybody below 18 is not ready for sex.
  • CASES? An estimated 150 million girls and 73 million boys have experienced forced sexual intercourse. UN Report on Violence against Children
  • WHO? Boys are sexually abused by men, women and male and female peers; girls are sexually abused by women, men and female and male peers. A report of the British Columbia Institute Against Family Violence, 2006 reveals that 80% of the occurrences studied involved sex offenders who occupied community positions of trust. These male sex offenders were often well known and respected for their work with children. In other 20% of the occurrences, offenders were friends and neighbours of the victims.
  • WHERE? In most cases, sexual abuse of girls and boys is most common within the home or is committed by a person known to the family. But sexual abuse/violence also occurs in schools and other educational settings, by both peers and teachers. UN Report on Violence against Children
  • HOW? Most abuses take place with children at very tender age when they are not in a position to defend themselves; the abuser He/she LURES more than he/she FORCES, plays on the mind of the child and EXPLOIT their TRUST.
  • RESPONSE? 75% of children do not report immediately; 18% waited for more than 5 years.
  • WHY? Studies reveal that the children are always afraid of not being believed
  • CONSENSUAL? According to the Child’s Rights Act, 2003, a child does not have the capacity to give consent for any form of sexual activity. Therefore any sexual involvement with children constitutes an abuse and it is an offence.
  • IGNORANCE? It is not also a defense for an adult, who is caught having sexual relationship with anybody below 18 years of age that at the point of entering into sexual relationship with such person, he thought that the person was 18 years or above.
  • EXCUSE? It is not also a defense that the child lures him/her into a sexual relationship.

The THINK Factor

I want you to be candid about your response on this question and also be bold about it. Do you really agree that sex is not meant for children or children are not meant for sex? Take time to really reflect and share your thoughts in your S.A.F.E™ 4 YOU Personal Journal.






Culled from our Instructional Manuals: S.A.F.E™ for YOU

TIP 67                                                

“The sexual abuse and exploitation of children is one of the most vicious crimes conceivable, a violation of mankind’s most basic duty to protect the innocent.”

James T. WALSH

Sure you are doing great today, my precious young ones. I am sure we are making progress in this our important journey to the Promised Land of Personal Safety and Self-Protection.

We have spent some time, discussing foundational issues, rights and the laws, which provides for them, gender rights and rights of those living with one form of disability or the other.

Now, I think it is time to dedicate some quality time to what really constitutes an abuse. If you must be involved in your Personal Safety and Self-Protection, you must know what to protect yourself against. If you must know what to protect yourself against, you must know what constitute abuse in the eye of the law and what constitute danger. Against danger, you need Personal Safety and for Abuse, you need Self-Protection.

Today, I begin with Sexual Abuse. Sexual abuse is the involvement of a child in sexual activity that he or she does not fully comprehend or unable to give informed consent to, or for which the child is not developmentally prepared and cannot give consent.

Child Sexual Abuse is evidenced by this activity between a child and an adult or another child who by age or development is in a relationship of RESPONSIBILITY, TRUST OR POWER, the activity being INTENDED to GRATIFY or SATISFY the needs of the other person.

This may include but is not limited to:

  • The inducement or coercion of a child to engage in any unlawful sexual activity
  • The use of child in prostitution or other unlawful sexual practices.
  • The use of children in pornographic performances and materials.
  • Everything from obscene exposure to touching the genitals in a sexual way

According to the Report on Violence Against Children in Nigeria 2014, Sexual Violence include all forms of sexual abuse and exploitation. This encompasses a range of acts, including:

  • Unwanted completed sex acts (i.e., rape),
  • Attempted non-consensual sex acts
  • Abusive sexual contact (i.e., unwanted touching),
  • Pressured sex (such as through threats or tricks)

All of these are often perpetrated ‘by any person regardless of their relationship to the child experiencing the violence, in any setting.’

I think you have enough to digest today. Let me draw the curtain and allow you to digest this for the purpose of self-protection. Do have an INSPIRED day.

The THINK Factor

How would you describe sexual abuse in your own words from what we have discussed so far? Take time to really reflect and share your thoughts in your S.A.F.E™ 4 YOU Personal Journal.



Today, May 27, 2018 is Children’s Day and in celebrating the precious Nigerian Child and their distinguished primary and secondary handlers, I, The Preacher remind myself of the irresistible conclusion we came to while researching into the writing of our instructional manuals, S.A.F.E™ 4 YOU, which are designed to help our precious young people to effectively participate in their own protection. What is this irresistible conclusion? It is this: SEX IS VERY BIG in today’s world and in the lives of our precious children.

Therefore in marking the Children’s Day today, I, The Preacher feel that there is no better time to call attention to this BIG SEX ISSUES and its huge attendant consequences than this day when all eyes are on the precious Nigerian Children. Therefore for the next 16 days, I will be sharing excerpts from our S.A.F.E™ 4 YOU instructional manuals nuggets on the subject matter of SEX and how our precious young people can regain and maintain their sanity in the face of the insanity we are today faced with.

But before we delve into the excerpts, we will dedicate today to a very long introduction, aimed at convincing our precious young people and us the distinguished handlers.

SEX is actually BIGGER than most of the things we fear and give the energy of our private and national debate to…

SEX is so BIG before GOD…It is so BIG and so sacred that by the injunction of the Holy Writ, it is designed by the Creator of all things to be celebrated between a man and a woman, who are joined together in holy matrimony…

SEX is still very BIG even when it is perveted…

SEX is BIG in GROOMING peodophiles and abusers. Research has now found that 80% of those who sexually abuse children and others today were themselves abused, but never spoke up and never found help…

SEX is BIG as a WANTON EXPRESSION of intimate feeling towards the opposite and same sex…Looking around us, particularly among our young people, SEX has become so BIG a pleasurable practice, which results are evident as formidable distractions to their glorious present and future…

SEX is BIG as being an OVERRATED, UNDERRATTED and MISUNDERSTOOD ENTITY…The entertainment world has deliberately packaged SEX as a DO-OR-DIE affair, which urge man or woman do not have control over…To it’s urge, many of our young people has been convinced are too weak to subject their instinct to their reasoning capacity… Unknown to many of our young people decisions about SEX are not to be taking on the basis of their feeling alone but more on their reasoning. The grave, immediate and future danger inherent in indiscriminate engagement in SEXUAL and related activities are also often deliberately UNDERRATED to the peril of young people and adults…SEX and it’s purpose, the pleasure and pains it brings are often designed to MISUNDERSTOOD by most of our young people…In fact it is seems to me that the new media today deliberately positions SEX to be MISUNDERSTOOD by our precious young people…

SEX is BIG as an OVER-DEMOCRATISED venture or adventure…The knowledge and it’s practice of SEX is now available to all, whether they are ready to receive such knowledge or not. In this Post-truth era, which enjoy the multi-facetted platforms of Populism, the knowledge or information about any subject matter does not need to be right or have any character reference or moral premise for it to be accepted as the SOCIAL NORM…With the unfettered accessibility to social media, many of us have lost our sense of self-censorship, often throwing restraint into the whirlwind of instant feeling and posting same on our Social Media Accounts… Therefore available on sex today, like any other pressing social issues are unprocessed and  unverified thoughts and prejudices, which often represents nothing but the confusion of the person expressing same. Every Tom, Dick and Harry  today wears the toga of an erudite scholar, without conducting any research and the claim to thought leadership is as cheap, erratic and subjective as having access to digital devices (Smartphones laptop and tablet computers)…Therefore most of the information available on SEX today have not gone through the necessary filters of what I call POSITIVE VALUE SYSTEM and COMMON-SENSE MORALITY and they are available anyway, looking for who to mislead…Since many now feed on the ejaculations of others people’s mind wastes, presented as thoughts, empty are our minds…

SEX is BIG as a HOME BREAKER…Many homes have are broken today because married couples do not know how to handle SEX in their marriages…The challenge is either, couples are not able to satisfy themselves SEXUALLY in the marriage or both or one of the parties are not able to keep their oath of SEXUAL fidelity…

SEX is BIG as a TRANSMITTER…Apart from the fact that it transmits Sexually Transmitter Diseases, it has been found that SEX is the BIGGEST transmitter of HIV/AIDS globally.

SEX is BIG as a KILLER…When you consider many who have been accused and convicted for crimes of passion, many who have been killed as a result of contacting HIV/AIDS and other STDs, you will agree that SEX is BIG as a KILLER.

SEX is BIG as COMMERCE…The SEX INDUSTRY is one of the BIGGEST in the world today. a huge one for that matter…The global illegal earning from SEX trafficking is put at  $99 billion as at 2017. In a study conducted by a company known as TopTen Reviews, ‘revenues for the world pornography industry hit an estimated $97 billion in 2006, overshadowing the revenues of the top technology companies — the likes of Microsoft, Google, Yahoo! and Apple — combined.’ According to Business Insider, there are 42 million prostitutes in the world today. ‘Three quarters of them are between the ages of 13 and 25, and 80% of them are female.’ Here in Nigeria, a show, known as Big Brother Nigeria, which recklessly promotes SEX and its many obscene accompaniments was reported to have earned 5.1 Billion Naira at its recently concluded outing.

SEX is BIG a SALESPERSON…Have you noticed that SEX is the BIGGEST salesperson in the world today and therefore enjoys the highest earnings from sales…It is seems every product must contain a bit SEX or its innuendo in its presentation to the members of the public…It seems that the accepted marketing axiom is ‘For it to make sense to the majority, it must SEX.’ It’s seems marketers plays on the sensuality of the majority to draw their attention to their products and services…

SEX is BIG as an ENTERTAINER…SEX is very BIG as an entertainer…In jokes by comedians, in songs by musicians and in music videos, television series and  movies etc. I make bold to say that in the whole spectrum of art and entertainment globally, SEX seems to enjoy the audacious monopoly of being the central theme…

SEX is BIG as COMPENSATION…Many are out there who pitch and demand SEX as COMPENSATION for granting rights and privileges…There are people, who believe that with SEX as the COMPENSATION they have to offer, they can climb any mountain and attain any dream…To these ones, the end justifies the means…

SEX is BIG as NEMESIS…Bill Clinton, Bill Cosby, Jerry Sandusky, Harvey Weinstein, Charlie Rose, Donald Trump, Larry Nassar, Morgan Freeman, just to mention a few on the international scene were  embarrassed or cut short in the prime of their careers as a result of allegations of mishandling SEX. Still fresh in our memory is the story of the Nigerian University lecturer, demading five rounds of sexual intercourse with his student for what is popularly known within the Nigerian higher institutions of learning as ‘Let My People Go’ Mark(40%). The video also went viral of another Nigerian University lecturer, lured by his lust to the hostel of a famale student. How are the mighty fallen…And we must accept, without controversy that it takes the might to bring down the might…

SEX is BIG as a PENETRATOR…There is no institution too sacred, too fortified or too great for SEX to penetrate…Few years back the news broke of how SEX has penetrated the Catholic Church, particularly the priesthood and innocent and precious children were mostly the victims…Priests like Paul Stanley, John Geoghan, Brendan Smyth, Marcial Maciel, Roger Vangheluwe were one way or the other indicted for bringing SEX in its abused form into the temple… As if that was not bad enough, the Vatican is not left out as it was penetrated by  SEX  The third-highest-ranking officer in the Vatican, Cardinal George Pell is today standing trail for cases of sexual abuse though he has maintained his innocence. SEX found its way
it’s way BIG into the activities of  the Nobel Foundation, with a commitment to threaten the impecable reputation of the long-standing awards. So it was reported, ‘the Swedish Academy has postponed the 2018 Nobel Prize in Literature in the wake of a scandal over sexual assault allegations.’ Wow! That is a BIG score for BIG SEX…

SEX is BIG as a LEGACY OF SHAME…Jimmy Savile died celebrated a respected DJ, television and radio personality, dance hall manager and charity fund raiser…Today all that represent his legacy are in ruins…SEX showed after he was dead and burried to the SHAME of his LEGACY…SEX did not only deal with his LEGACY, it opened a pandora box of SEXUAL ABUSES indicting Savile and his cronies…

Now that I believe I have your attention that SEX is BIG, do you not think we should talk more about this almighty sex than we are doing today, particularly in empowering our precious young people to rise about its crafty lures…

You see, SEX is BIG but there are principles of handling it and putting it under control…As someone, who began to experience SEX through abuse at age 6 and practiced all kinds of unimaginable SEXUAL pervertions till age 27 and who today at the age of 48 have a humble testimony of dealing with SEX as it is designed to be from the beginning, I set to share some working principles with our precious young people.

For 16 days from today, Children’s Day, I, The Preacher will be sharing excerpts on my blog from our Instructional materials, S.A.F.E™ 4 YOU: 125 Daily Tips for Securing A Friendly and PROTECTIVE Environment…We will touch on issues like ‘Consensual Sex’ among young people, handling the SEX Revolution, dealing with masturbations and pornography, understanding the balance between LOVE and Sex…

I charge you not to miss one day as we have the talk discussing SEX as a BIG issue that it is for our precious young people today. I await your comments as we share.
Do have an INSPIRED week as we celebrate the 2018 Children’s Day with our precious children.

I am The Preacher, I SPEAK for the Precious AFRICAN CHILDREN & Young PEOPLE
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6 Straight Days of #SAFE4MEMovement Encounter on Drug Abuse: Signing-Out Day: Drawing the VALUE Lines

It is day seven and signing out day of our #SAFE4MEMovement journey on drug abuse and today, I shall be sharing very briefly what I consider to be the chief of all antidote to the gravitation of your precious young people towards drug abuse and addiction.

 On Tuesday, May 1, 2018, I, The Preacher was on TVC Wake Up Nigeria, discussing the issue of our precious young people and the menace of drug abuse and addiction.

I identified as one of the causes of initiation and addiction to drug as Media Hypnotism…The fact that our precious young people are exposed to materials both on the mainstream and new media in the name of entertainment, through music, films and other expressions, which set them up for a life of vanity, where there is abundant tolerance for sundry vices like sexual immorality, fraudulent practices and drug addiction.

The saddest part is that the primary and secondary handlers expose their precious young people to contents that are not meant for their consumption. Our precious young People are unfortunately exposed to contents that glorify excessive drug usage and immorality.

The other day a popular musician, who enjoys a huge followership of young people sang a song titled, ‘Story for the gods,’ where he explicitly created link for our precious young people between consumption of hard drugs and sexual immorality.

Here is the opening of the song: I have drank dongoyaro (a local herbal drink)/And monkey tail (another local herbal drink, sometimes used as an aphrodisiac)/Madman, give me the claro (a local slang for weed)/I want to do sina today, sina today (sina is street lingo for adultery or fornication)

 She said she cannot wait o/She said it’s getting late o/She said she wants to faint o/Ah, story for the gods

 Now she’s saying “I’m in trouble”/“He has broken my arm o”/“He has broken my back o”/ Story for the gods, the gods o.’

According to describes Monkey Tail  is ‘ though an unlikely sounding moniker, is simply a drink made of ogogoro (local gin) left to brew in igbo (marijuana leaves, stems, roots or seeds) for a few days or more, producing varying units of intoxication (UOI) for the user.’

The website goes further to explain, ‘the beverage gives users two different kinds of “highs” simultaneously with unpredictable outcomes, especially for a novice and depending on the alcoholic content, igbo potency and amount consumed. There is also the case of synergy where ten UOI of ogogoro plus ten UOI of igbo can cause thirty seven UOI when consumed.’

The other day I stumbled on the lyrics of a song titled, ‘Like dat’ by another popular musician. The chorus goes thus: ‘Hennessey ti wo body like dat ( High on Hennessey)/ Dussé ti wo body like that (High on Dussé)/Scordy ti wo body, like that (High on Scordy)/You no go kill somebody, like that/Hennessey ti wo body, like Dat/Dussé ti wo body like that/Scordy ti wo body, like that’/You no go kill somebody, like that…’
Now, this song is relishing in the idea of drinking hot and hard drinks. We may argue that these musicians do not claim to sing for our precious young people. But you and I know that the majority of those who consume these types of songs, which sample I cited above (and which are very rampant today) are teenagers. Besides, many adults, who are handlers of our precious young people do not know how to draw the lines when it comes to what entertainment they expose our precious young people to. I have been in programs meant for children and young people and all these songs are played freely for them. I guess it is either they do not have the moral compass to make the right and helpful decision in the best interest of the precious young people under their care or they are just simple careless about the consequences of their actions or omission on these precious youngsters today and tomorrow.

Here is my point, until we address our value system as the solutions to the many vices our precious young people are exposed to today and the role that the mainstream and social media play in same, we are not yet serious.

Permit me to conclude that handlers, who reside on the hill, raise children fit for the hill. Handlers, who dwell in the valley, raise children, conditioned for the valley. Handlers, who live like city with walls, raise children, conscious of the soundness and sanity of boundaries. Handlers, who live like a city without walls, raise children without any sense of boundaries. Dear handlers, where do you live? What kind of city are you? These are questions we must consciously answer, if we must raise precious young people free from drugs and other vices. The ball is completely in our court. A nation deserves the kind of young people, her parents raise.

Do have an INSPIRED week.

I am Taiwo ‘ODINAKACHUKWU’ AKINLAMI (The Preacher) and I Speak for the Precious African Child

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6 Straight Days of #SAFE4MEMovement Encounter on Drug Abuse: Day 6

Culled from our instructional materials: S.A.F.E™ for YOU

TIP 117


“Remember that just because you hit bottom doesn’t mean you have to stay there.”


 My dear and precious young friends, sure you are doing great today. I am glad to be here with you today. I am sure you have resumed school and settled down to give your education your best effort this term. I pray that God will crown this term for you with great success.

Today, I will be sharing with you tips on how to avoid drug addiction/abuse:

1. Accept that drugs are not good for you: to avoid drug abuse, you must accept deep down in your heart that drugs and its abuse have nothing good to offer you. The consequences of drug abuse as I have noted on this page are not small and your young minds do not have what it takes to handle it. Therefore make up your mind to desist from drug abuse of any form. This will help you to preserve your future and be free from the consequences of drug abuse.

2. Watch your company: be careful, who you join yourself with. Human beings, particularly young people like you are easily pressure into wrong habits like drug abuse by wrong friends. The holy writ says, ‘good communication corrupts good manners.’ Identify where you are going in life and make up your mind that you will only join yourself with people, who are going in the same direction, you are doing in life.

3. Seek for help: if you are involved in drug abuse and you are finding it difficult to quit the habit despite all your efforts, it is time to cry out for help. Silence is not an option. When you speak out, you will find help. Talk to your school counselor or any other person, who you know can help you. If you are being pressured into drug abuse by a peer or group of peers, do not give in. It is time to cry out for help. Talk to your parents, teacher and other people, who can call the situation to order. Silence must be embraced, Silence is a killer and it keeps slowly but surely. I charge you today not to die silence and seek for help. Let me assure you that when you seek for help, you will surely find.

4. Accept that you can be free from drug abuse: I started drinking alcohol and smoking as a child because my father drank and smoked. By the time I got to the university, I started smoking marijuana. I was hooked on drug till I was age 27(twenty-seven). It was as it I will never stop, but on day, I asked God to help me and he did. God helped me to believe that I could be free from drug abuse. That was 18(eighteen) years ago. I have been free since then and I have never gone back to my vomit. You too can believe today that you have what it takes to be free and decide to be free. If I can do it, I believe you can do it. I understand that I could not continue to live according to the mistakes made by father. I decided to take my life back and lead a new life. God has been faithful and I am most grateful to Him and I know He is willing and able to help you if you call on Him today.

I will sign out here today. I am through with this discussion. I will begin to discuss with you from tomorrow how to protect yourself from being recruited by terrorist groups. Do have your wonderful selves an INSPIRED day.

The THINK Factor

I charge you today to identify which major guidelines you need to personally pay attention to in your responsibility to protect yourself from Drug Abuse. Take time to really reflect and share your thoughts in your S.A.F.E™ 4 YOU Personal Journal





6 Straight Days of #SAFE4MEMovement Encounter on Drug Abuse: Day 5

Culled from our instructional materials: S.A.F.E™ for YOU

TIP 95


Addiction begins with the hope that something “out there” can instantly fill up     the  emptiness inside”. Jean KILBOURNE

Hello my dear and precious young friends. Sure you are doing great today. How was your night? Sure it was great.

Today, I will continue our discussion on why I think young people use drugs. Here is the 6th and the last reason:  Adventure: as young people, you are very adventurous. Many young people want to test their curiosity. As I always say, life is too serious and real to be lived by trial and errors. God gave you curiosity not to destroy you but to help you to query things for your progress and stand out. Your adventure must never lead to embark on doing something you know could destroy you.

When we were in secondary school, one of our mates went to smoke dry pawpaw leaves. He wanted to taste it. He gave his adventurous mind free flow of expression. Do you know what happened to him? Hmmm…He ran mad just like that. The truth is that he did not finish secondary school with us. I always tell myself that I must never smell what I do not plan to eat. I must not taste anything that has no clear benefits for my body.

Many young people have lost their lives and future as results of adventure. As I have said before here that being young does not mean you are stupid or irresponsible. Any adventure that does not push you forward towards becoming a responsible youth, who will become responsible adult, is not worth it. Adventure must lead you to positive actions and not negative ones.

I have shared with you the six reasons, I believe young people abuse drug. I think I have only two assignments left in this discussion. The first is to discuss with you the impact of drug abuse and the last is to share with you how you can avoid being involved in drug abuse. I will do the first one today and in the days ahead by the grace of God, I will round off with the second.

Drug abuse does not have any advantage for you as young person. As a matter of fact, it is a distraction to your mind. Your mind is very important to your success today and tomorrow. You cannot afford your mind to be messed up by drugs. ‘We know from scientific research that the earlier you start using drugs, the more likely you are to become addicted and suffer serious social and medical consequences. The reasons for this are complex—first, drugs affect the brain, and the brain is still developing until early adulthood.’ Medical science has established that “addiction is a brain disease…. Studies have shown that nicotine, cocaine, heroine, amphetamines and other addictive drugs alter the brains pleasure circuit, known as reward circuit”.

It has also been established that ‘drug abuse and addiction and other mental disorders are intimately related, so this question is like a coin that can be looked at from two different sides. On one hand, we have known for a long time that people who abuse drugs, in general, have higher rates of many mental illnesses. In fact, there is evidence that drug abuse early in life may increase the risk of psychiatric disorders or accelerate their course.’

Above all, drug addiction can cause a young person his/her life. Still in the news is the painful case of Bobbi Kristina “Krissy” Brown, who has been in coma since January 31, 2015 after she was found face down in a bathtub in her Georgia home. Brown has been in the news for a while now for drug use. It is important to note that drug abuse has claimed the lives of many young people, among many other health hazards it brings.

I think I should sign out here. I will be with you tomorrow. I think I need to allow you to digest this very important reason why I believe young people get into drugs. Do have an INSPIRED day.

The THINK Factor

What do you understand by adventure and how do you think it should enrich or advance you as a young person, preparing for a glorious future? Take time to really reflect and share your thoughts in your S.A.F.E™ 4 YOU Personal Journal and share with your parents and other trusted caregivers and friends.