Teaching Children Responsibilities: Sharing the I’m D-SMARTTEESSTT™ Principle (4)

Opening Charge

‘By self respect here I mean a child being taught to treat himself with the dignity his individuality deserves. When a child is grounded in that, he extends it to others and he demands it from others.’

Dear friends and stakeholders, I was not able to come to you on Friday. I was pressed beyond measures. It took the grace of God for me to retain my sanity on this day when I could identify spirit, soul and body with the statement of Jacob when he said, ‘all these things are against me.’ I give God the glory that the mountain moved at last and disgrace was not allowed to tabernacle over us.

I am back today fresh and shining, ready to exhale and pour my heart out on this matter of our children. I beg to continue where I stopped the last time we met here. Please enjoy the day. I will continue to share with you I’m D-SMARTTEESSTT™ Principle as a template for teaching children responsibilities:

  • Advance daily: to teach the child to defeat ignorance one day at a time like Ben Carson’s mum; Sonya Carson did to forever make a mark in the lives of her children. Billy Graham said of his mother in his autobiography, Just As I Came thus ‘At home, from my earliest years, Mother encouraged me in the habit of reading. The exploits of Robin Hood in Sherwood Forest entranced me. I read the whole Tom Swift series, and the Rover Boys… Before I was ten, she had made me memorize the Westminster [Presbyterian] Shorter Catechism…Mother also prodded me to read The Book of Knowledge, an encyclopedia.’
  • Respect Yourself: to teach the child that nobody is going to respect him above how he respects himself and that he will never be disrespected by anyone until he disrespects himself. By self respect here I mean a child being taught to treat himself with the dignity his individuality deserves. When a child is grounded in that, he extends it to others and he demands it from others.
  • Think beyond yourself: to teach our children that if they live to get, they will get. But if they live to give, they will get more. This is a point we need to dwell on with our children. We live in a country, where the majority of our people are always thinking about what they can get. I think it is a mentality that has been successfully passed down. A six year old was once asked what he would do if voted as the president of Nigeria. His response was very instructive: ‘If I am voted president of Nigeria, I will buy one car for my dad, one for my mum, one for myself and I will resign.’
  • Tell your stories of victories:  to teach the child to encourage himself with the stories of his personal victories.  The other side of the coin is to admonish the child that the world is looking for hope and it (hope) is written in his stories of victories told.
  • Exude your flavour: to teach our children that he is unique and should promote their uniqueness.
  • Empathy- it refers to helping the child to always put himself in other people’s shoes and be touched with the feelings of their infirmities. It will help the child to desist from being victims of the normal and destructive tendency of interpreting an unfavourable situation from his sense of pain.    It helps him to always seek and see the full picture in every situation before taking a decision.
  • Seek meaningful relationships: We must teach our children to seek meaningful relationships. A relationship is meaningful when it becomes a reference point to progress. We are all created for relationships. Therefore, we cannot run away from them; we teach our children how to make friends and influence people.
  • Speed-limit conscious: to teach the child that there is not fast lane anywhere. Therefore, he must pay his dues if he wants to make difference and climb the ladders of life.
  • Take it easy with yourself: we must teach children that they will make mistake and must be comfortable with their mistakes. We must make them understand that no one is perfect and they must embrace their mistakes and be ready to make corrections.
  • Turn to God: we must teach our children that God rules in the affairs of men and for them to make a difference in life they must cultivate a rich relationship with Him.

I am out of here friend. I hope you found your visit today worth the time. I will be here tomorrow to share another lines of thoughts. Till then, I charge you, live INSPIRED.

I’m Taiwo Akinlami & I Lead the TeacherFIRE™ Revolution.

POINT 2 PONDER:

‘A relationship is meaningful when it becomes a reference point to progress.’

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Teaching Children Responsibilities: Sharing the I’m D-SMARTTEESSTT™ Principle (3)

Opening Charge

‘The goal of the advocated value-orientation exercise will be to inculcate in the child, the values that will help him to be the kind of person that can carry out the Section 19 responsibilities.’

It is good to be here again today addressing issues that affect our children, our today and our future. The point I seek to address today, as I promised yesterday is how the custodians of the life of the child fulfil the Section 20 Mandate. I think in giving credible ventilation to the Section 20 Mandate, the focus of the custodians should be on developing the character of the children. I opine that our primary focus should not be to load the child with the responsibilities outlined in Section 19, but to help him become the kind of person, who can carry out the responsibilities. I submit that the focus of the custodians should be to embark on a value-orientation exercise for the child, exemplified by their (custodians) lives. The goal of the advocated value-orientation exercise will be to inculcate in the child, the values that will help him to be the kind of person that can carry out the Section 19 responsibilities. By the word values here, I mean principles, standards, or qualities considered worthwhile or desirable by an individual or an entity.

As I have said earlier in one of our discussions, it is important to note that the information available to a child, most importantly from our actions, determines what the child believes. His belief determines his values; his values determine his habit. In view of the foregoing, I propose the I’m D-SMARTTEESSTT™ Principle as a Template of for Teaching Children the Section 19 Responsibilities: 

  • Decode Your Identity: At the root every dysfunction is lack of understanding of one’s identity. The first question every human being seeks answer is the issue of identity. One of the greatest challenges of young people is that they are finding their identity. They seek personal identity, family identity and national identity. As it is today there are no credible answers to the quests of young people to the issue of identity. A people who do not know their identity will not know their heritage. When the sense of heritage is missing, the sense of mission is the first victim.
  • Soundness:  this refers to training our child to define his priorities right and purse same. Our priorities in life are determined by our sacrifice, time & energy.
  • Make of yourself: to drum it to the child that his mind is limitless; and that ‘the happiest of people do not have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything that comes their way.’ 

Thank you friends, I will continue this tomorrow. Have an INSPIRED Day

I’m Taiwo Akinlami & I Lead the TeacherFIRE™ Revolution

POINT 2 PONDER:

By the word values here, I mean principles, standards, or qualities considered worthwhile or desirable by an individual or an entity.’

 

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Teaching Children Responsibilities: Sharing the I’m D-SMARTTEESSTT™ Principle (2)

Opening Charge

 

‘The section we just read leaves us without excuse as the custodians of the life of the children in teaching them responsibilities. The truth is that if we fail in this godly and legal responsibility, we would fail our children, every child within our network and humanity in general.’

 

Hello friends, I am excited to be with you this beautiful morning. It is my passion to appear here today to share with you the depth of my heart. I hope you find your visit to this page daily worth your precious time. Please send us your comments from time to time to let us know how you find the discussions here. It is in this light that I must thank Mrs. Olalade Hector-Fowobaje for comments.

 

Join me as I continue the discussion I began yesterday. Let us read together Section 19 of the Child’s Rights Act, 2003:

 

Every child has responsibilities towards his family and society, the Federal Republic of Nigeria and other legally recognized communities, nationally and internationally.

 

It is the duty of a child, subject to his age and ability and such other limitations as may be contained in this Act and any other law, to —

  • working towards the cohesion of their families,

 

  • respecting their parents and elders,

 

  • placing their physical and intellectual capabilities at the service of the State,

 

  • contributing to the moral well-being of the society,

 

  • strengthening social and national solidarity,

 

  • preserving the independence and integrity of the country,

 

  • respecting the ideals of freedom, equality, humaneness, and justice for all persons, relating with others in the spirit of tolerance, dialogue and consultation,

 

  • contributing to the best of their abilities solidarity with and unity withAfrica, and the world at large.

 

 

While Section 19 of the Act, which we just read dwells on the responsibilities of children, the Section 20 we are about to read focuses on the responsibilities of all the custodians of the life of the child to help him live up to his outlined responsibilities. Section 20 reads, ‘every parents, guardians, institutions and authorities responsible for the care, maintenance, upbringing, education, training, socialization, employment and rehabilitation of a child has a duty to provide the necessary, guidance, education and training for the child in his or her care such as will equip the child to secure his assimilation, appreciation and observance of the responsibilities set out in this part of the Act.’

 

The section we just read leaves us without excuse as the custodians of the life of the children in teaching them responsibilities. The truth is that if we fail in this godly and legal responsibility, we would fail our children, every child within our network and humanity in general.

 

Join me tomorrow as I share with you the principles to employ in carrying out this responsibility.

 

I’m Taiwo Akinlami & I Lead the TeacherFIRE™ Revolution

 

POINT 2 PONDER:

 

While Section 19 of the Act, which we just read dwells on the responsibilities of children, the Section 20 we are about to read focuses on the responsibilities of all the custodians of the life of the child to help him live up to his outlined responsibilities.’

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Teaching Children Responsibilities: Sharing the I’m D-SMARTTEESSTT™ Principle (1)

Opening Charge

‘One painful truth in our society today is that we are raising children, who are not aware of their civic responsibilities. The major challenge is that we as adults are so beaten down by the state of the nation that the rat race of survival has consumed all of our attention’

Thank you for joining us again today. I am particularly excited about our discussion today. It is a reminder of one of my most favourite characteristics of children as revealed in the acronym I shared with you few weeks ago.  I had shared that letter L in the word, children stand for leadership. I also shared that leadership means taking responsibility for first for one’s life and then a situation or something.

As far as I am concerned, the greatest legacy we can give to our children is to shake off any sense of liability and teach them to be responsible. It is a trite saying that a child that is not trained is the one, who will sell an estate, which is built.

I believe that one of the high points of the Child’s Rights Act, 2003 is that Sections 19 and 20 is that it gives expression to the age-long truism that freedom without responsibility is the breeding ground for chaos. It has been found that children, particularly teenagers have the tendency of thinking the world and everything in it exist only for their benefits. Therefore, if parents and other custodians of the mind of the child focus only on teaching the child his rights, it will fuel the child’s tendency to be selfish. The foregoing will neither be in the best interest of the child nor the society.  One of the characters of modern society is that every member of society, young and old should be responsible for the well-being of the state. A Yoruba adage says, ‘the birth ofIfetown is attributable to both the wisdom of the young and the old.

One painful truth in our society today is that we are raising children, who are not aware of their civic responsibilities. The major challenge is that we as adults are so beaten down by the state of the nation that the rat race of survival has consumed all of our attention. We are fast gravitating towards a state of everyone to himself and God for us all. Fast, we are transferring same spirit to our children. The truth is children do not do what we say, they do what we do.

Friends, I still have much to say on this subject but space does not give us the luxury. I will like to lie low here and pick up the gauntlet tomorrow as God gives me grace. Do have a beautiful Monday and an INSPIRED Week. Stay INSPIRED.

I’m Taiwo Akinlami & I Lead the TeacherFIRE™ Revolution

POINT 2 PONDER:

As far as I am concerned, the greatest legacy we can give to our children is to shake off any sense of liability and teach them to be responsible. It is a trite saying that a child that is not trained is the one, who will sell an estate, which is built.’

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The Vision Speaks Series: Child’s Rights Education: An Advocacy (3)

Opening Charge

 “This hour in history needs a dedicated circle of transformed nonconformists. Dangerous passions of pride, hatred and selfishness are enthroned in our lives; truth lies prostrate on the rugged hills of nameless Calvaries. The saving of our world from pending doom will come, not through the complacent adjustment of the conforming majority, but through the creative maladjustment of a nonconforming minority.” Martin Luther King Junior

Just as I thought I would bring this discussion to a close yesterday, I found my mind insisting on supplying further and better facts on why the Nigerian Child must be taught their rights and responsibilities. When I observe my mind work this way, I am compelled to follow. It simply means, my subconscious, which is the seat of inspiration is loaded with more than I know in the conscious. I hope you get my point. So join me as I bring this discussion to a close, believing that my subconscious will keep his cool this time and allow this matter to rest.

I think this piece is long, but it is coming at a good time when we have the whole of weekend ahead of us to soak in the contents of this piece of advocacy.

It is my joy that we are soaking in critical information that will help us advance the cause of our children who are very dear to us and in whose hand lies the state of humanity, according to Abraham Lincoln.

I charge you today to move beyond lip service and make a commitment to ensure that we introduce Child’s Rights Education in our homes, agitate for its mainstreaming as parents in private school, who must have a say, not only in the school curriculum, but how the school is run and make bold representations to governments at the States and Federal levels.

We must rise above lip service. You see, one thing I have found in this part of the world is that we over promise and under deliver or never deliver. We have perfected the act of paying lip service to matters that affect our collective destiny and future, like children’s matter. Unfortunately, it is a culture that we are transferring to our children and when they are grounded in it, they begin to pay lip service to matters that concern us when they take tomorrow the positions, we occupy today.  

To begin Child’s Rights Education in the home we may begin by taking time to study the trend of development and the contemporary issues in every area (value, development, sex, love and related matters touching on emotional development, sibling relationship and rivalry, developing friendship with same and opposite sex, development of the spirit of enterprise, nation building, success principles and many more) of the life of our children. The goal of the foregoing exercise to enable you as parents prepare what I will call Frequently Asked Question Handbook on Contemporary Children Development Issues (FAQCCDI) to provide credible answers, which are subject to review every three months. The exercise referred to above, that is the preparation of Frequently Asked Question Handbook on Contemporary Children Development Issues must be done with parents deliberately requesting for the active involvement and informed inputs of the children. This is a document to which the children will have access from the time they are able to read. 

In introducing Child’s Rights Education we must be conscious of what Child Participation is not as outlined below: 

  • Not a right to autonomy
  • It does not give children the right to control over all decisions irrespective of their implications either for the child or others.
  • It does not give children the right to disrespect the rights of others including parents.’
  • Children do not participate by merely attending a function. That is decoration and not participation.
  • Children do not participate by being merely consulted when adults make all the decisions.
  • Children do not participate if they are manipulated so that they express views that are not genuinely theirs, nor rooted in their own experience.
  • If a child is asked to give his/her opinion as representing “other children” when he/she is not properly briefed nor have the opportunity to discuss the issues with the very peers he/she is meant to be representing.

Dear reader, making the foregoing commitment is not an easy task as it will require us taking giant steps in the best interest of the child in a society, where it seems its time has not come. I want us to understand that, truth is lacking and we find a situation, where it is a typical case of ‘everyone to himself and God for us all.’  I therefore charge you with the words of Martin Luther King Junior made in 1963 that “This hour in history needs a dedicated circle of transformed nonconformists. Dangerous passions of pride, hatred and selfishness are enthroned in our lives; truth lies prostrate on the rugged hills of nameless Calvaries. The saving of our world from pending doom will come, not through the complacent adjustment of the conforming majority, but through the creative maladjustment of a nonconforming minority.”

Friends, permit me to rest my case here. Do have an INSPIRED Weekend

I’m Taiwo Akinlami & I Lead the TeacherFIRE™ Revolution

POINT 2 PONDER:

‘We must rise above lip service. You see, one thing I have found in this part of the world is that we over promise and under deliver or never deliver.’

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The Vision Speaks Series: Child’s Rights Education: An Advocacy (2)

Opening Charge

‘I believe that when a child is armed with knowledge of his rights and responsibilities he does not only wait to be called upon to participate, he agitates to participate. This is because Knowledge is potential power, information is strength, and ignorance is destructive and costly.

Hello friends, permit me to conclude the piece I began yesterday. Let me begin by saying that I fear greatly that the Nigerian Child will miss out on the benefits of Child Participation Campaign except he is purge of ignorance. The reason is that a Child cannot participate in matters that affect him if he lacks knowledge of the issues involved. Except a child is equipped with knowledge; it becomes impossible for him to make any meaningful contribution, even when called to participate.

I believe that when a child is armed with knowledge of his rights and responsibilities he does not only wait to be called upon to participate, he agitates to participate. This is because Knowledge is potential power, information is strength, and ignorance is destructive and costly.  Nothing is more desirable at this stage of our development than a proper, vigorous and consistent education of the children and adolescent on their rights. It is my firm belief that the child will continue to suffer countless social, economic and political disadvantages if he/she is not properly educated on his/her rights and obligations in the society. When a child is empowered with knowledge, he/she knows how to take preventive measures against abuses and how to seek early intervention. When the foregoing is achieved, the child becomes an informed and responsible voice and an effective force in the fight for the protection of his/her rights.

The former UN Secretary-General Kofi Annan, in his opening statement to the General Assembly, addressed the children of the world. “We, the grown-ups, have failed you deplorably… One in three of you has suffered from malnutrition before you turned five years old. One in four of you has not been immunized against any disease. Almost one in five of you is not attending school…. We, the grown-ups, must reverse this list of failures.”  Carol Bellamy, the former UNICEF Executive Director, gave a clue to how “this list of failures” can be reversed as follows: “If we want to overcome poverty and the instability it breeds, we must start by investing in our young people…” I am of the firm opinion that there is no better investment in young people than the investment of knowledge, only through which the Nigerian Child can partake of the benefits of Child Participation.

I’m Taiwo Akinlami & I Lead the TeacherFIRE™ Revolution

POINT 2 PONDER:

‘When a child is empowered with knowledge, he/she knows how to take preventive measures against abuses and how to seek early intervention. When the foregoing is achieved, the child becomes an informed and responsible voice and an effective force in the fight for the protection of his/her rights.

 

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The Vision Speaks Series: Child’s Rights Education: An Advocacy (1)

Opening Charge

‘My justification for advocating for mainstreaming Child’s Rights Education into the curriculum of Primary and Secondary Schools at the states and federal levels is found in my understanding that one major factor that stands between the Nigerian Child and reaping the benefits of child participation is ignorance’

As a follow up to our last discussion on the rights of the child under the Child’s Rights Act, which ended with participation right of the child, I will like to share with you today the right of the Nigerian Child to Child’s Rights Education.  I will like to affirm that Child’s Rights Education is the most viable platform for the enforcement of the right of the child to participation.

My call today is to the states and federal ministries of education to mainstream Child’s Rights Education into the curriculum of Primary and Secondary Schools in Nigeria. Mainstreaming Child’s Rights Education in the foregoing order means making sure that the issue of children’s participation becomes part of our day-to-day activities of the children and the custodians of their lives.

The objectives of the call on the governments at the States and Federal level to mainstream Child’s Right Education as described above are set out as follows:

  • To call attention to the need to institutionalize the mainstreaming task of child participation in the curriculum of formal education.
  • To establish beyond all doubts that Child’s Rights Education is the lifeline of the child participation.
  • To intimate the listeners with the real issues in child’s participation education.
  • To empower listeners as agents of change in the area of mainstreaming child participation education in important constituencies in Nigeria.

My justification for advocating for mainstreaming Child’s Rights Education into the curriculum of Primary and Secondary Schools at the states and federal levels is found in my understanding that one major factor that stands between the Nigerian Child and reaping the benefits of child participation is ignorance.

Do have an INSPIRED Day and see you tomorrow.

I’m Taiwo Akinlami & I Lead the TeacherFIRE™ Revolution

POINT 2 PONDER: I will like to affirm that Child’s Rights Education is the most viable platform for the enforcement of the right of the child to participation.

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