Child Protection:CREED 8 CHILD DISCIPLINE and DEVELOPMENT is TODAY

Child discipline and development cannot be delayed. To delay it is to set the child up for a life of sorrow and pain in the future. Maria Montessori has reliably informed us that 80% of the personality of the child is formed between ages 2-6.

The child is in a state of development. He must be cultivated. It is important to note that whatever discipline a child needs today must be discharged today. If we do not do it today according to the need of the child, we will not have the opportunity to do for him tomorrow. If we do it tomorrow it will not be discipline. It will be nothing but damage control. Since the end of damage control is not predictable, this becomes dangerous for the future of the child.

I do not believe that parents or custodians whose teenagers are wayward need training in parenting. I think they need training in damage control.

I advise strongly that all hands must be at work today to discipline the child and help him to form a positive value-oriented personality.

Think the Child! Think Today! Think the Future! Have an INSPIRED Day.

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The TeacherFire™ Revolution: From Supreme Education Foundation With Unusual Impact!

On Thursday, February 21, 2013, The TeacherFire™ Revolution was hosted by the Supreme Education Foundation, Magodo G.R.A., Ikeja. It was an interesting outing for my good self and the entire TeacherFire™ crew. The teachers, over 85 in number were receptive and hungry for new knowledge. It is my humble conclusion that with the active support of the teachers, we set the entire school on the positive fire of doing all in the best interest.

Reading, the testimonies of the teachers as reflected in our Evaluation Forms moves me to tears of joy. What joy? The joy that the message is spreading and we are new building a school environment, where the best interest of the child is the operating philosophy. A teacher testified, ‘it has really inspired me to go the extra mile and put in my best in this teaching profession.’ Another teacher wrote, ‘the sessions have really enriched me greatly, professionally, socially and psychologically.’ ‘It has inspired me and touched every area of our lives as teachers,declared yet another teacher. Here is the last testimony we will share with you goes thus, ‘positively informed me about the essentials of teaching the child, child psychology; I have also been equipped to hear the child with my inner ears and ways of helping children with learning challenges.’

The truth of the matter is that these testimonies are not an end in themselves. They are a means to an end. The end we seek is to get everybody within the school system to focus on only one thing: THE BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILD. These testimonies are pointer and encouragement to us that this dream that we see is possibility. It is our firm belief that everything produces after its kind, including parents and teachers. We have faith that the testimonies above are genuine and if they are genuine, it means the lives of the teachers are being transformed and if the lives of the teachers are being transformed then automatically the lives of the children will be transformed. The truth is that children learn by observation. Thus they do not do what we say, they do what we do.

Also present at the training was the Executive Director of Supreme Education Foundation, Mrs. Adenike Adamolekun. She is an astute educationist, who also spoke to the teachers reinforcing The TeacherFire™ Revolution principles being disseminated to the teachers.

The six-hour training, which began at 10.00AM and ended at about 4.00PM sought to cause a revolution and we strongly believe that the revolution had begun earnestly. Our fervent prayer is that the impact of the revolution will endure far beyond what we can ever think or imagine.

Our charge to teacher today is that they must against all odds refuse a victim mentality and embrace game changer mentality. It is our charge to teachers that within and outside the school system, you will be treated as you treat yourself. We charge you today to increase your perception of yourself positively and in no time, you will see everything around you aligning with the health perception of yourself that you promote.

If we are yet to visit your school, we look forward to doing so soon. I urge you: Think the Child…Think Today…Think the Future.  Do have an INSPIRED week Great Souls, as fondly refer to you as teachers and I believe from the very depth of my heart that there are no greater souls than teachers.

Child Protection CREED 7: Children are not VULNERABLE. What we call children VULNERABILITY is the IRRESPONSIBILITY of CUSTODIAN

It is often said that children are vulnerable. Children are not vulnerable, I beg to declare. I believe that the vulnerability of the child is not in his fragility but in the inability of the custodians of his spirit, soul and body to rise to the defence of his existence either by commission or omission. Children are not created to care for themselves. They are created to be cared for spirit, soul and body. The tragedy of our day is that many people, who bring children to this world are either not aware of their responsibility or are have abandoned same. Therefore the children, who did not write an application to this world, are left in the cold.

The first set of custodian, who set the tone of the life of the child are the parents/guardians, who must not only be aware of their responsibility in this regards but must also be committed in performing the divinely assigned role.

What we call child’s vulnerability is simply adult’s irresponsibility. There are 18 (eighteen) categories of Orphaned and Vulnerable Children (OVC). None of them is an act of God. Everyone is traceable to human action and irresponsibility of adults.

Permit me to give an illustration. Consider a building loaded with treasure and situated in densely populated area. The building does not become vulnerable by virtue of its location and the contents therein. It only becomes vulnerable where proper and professional security measures are not taken to protect the building by its owners, caretakers or occupants. Any time there is a break into the house, it will always be as a result of a security breach or security lapse. Relate this example to our children. May God grant us wisdom to give a future and a hope to our children.

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MY SAD ENCOUNTER AT GBAGADA GENERAL HOSPITAL LAGOS

Welcome to Social Works Watch™ (SW2) this week. We were due to be with you yesterday, but we were thwarted by many unforeseen circumstances. We are here today and I believe it is better late than never.

Today, I have a guest, who is here to share with us her experience at Gbagada General Hospital. Welcome with me today Ms. Lillian Njoku:

On 25th January 2013, my pregnant sister, called me at about 3:55pm. She was frantic on the phone and she wanted me to proceed home immediately. I rushed to the house. On sighting me, she said to me, “I am seeing blood” Blood! I was disturbed. I know about water breaking when a woman is due for delivery but I have not heard of blood before that day. I believe also that in most cases blood is attributed to miscarriage. I however felt that her due date being few days a away, the pregnancy was too advance to be lost. I did not have too much time to debate all these in my mind, as I do here now, I needed to get her to safety. I needed speed. There was no other place to go except Gbagada General Hospital where she registered and has been attending her antenatal faithfully. We proceeded there pronto.

We got to the hospital, the nurse/matron confirmed it was labour and asked me to get her things in preparation for the arrival of the baby. She was admitted into the ward, placed on drip. The next morning, I asked the doctors what was happening as she was not having any contraction. They assured me there was no problem. They further informed me that “labour happens in stages.” Believing, my sister was in the safe hands of professionals, I decided to rest pn their counsel.

Sunday was third day since my sister was admitted into the hospital, yet she was not having any form of contraction. But it was business as usual on the side of the doctors. They kept prescribing drugs for us to buy.  

The fourth day, Monday, we discussed our concerns with the doctors who have be coming and going in turns.  Our concern was that there was no new development in my sister’s case. It was not obvious she was in labour. All that the doctors had to say was that they were waiting for the water to break. Later that day the water broke; there was still no contraction. At this point my sister became very concerned and expressed same to the doctor on duty. To the foregoing concern, the doctor responded, ‘no problem another water will still break. Madam you are not ready when you are, nobody will tell you.’ Though, the doctor’s advice sounded comforting, I was in no way comfortable. In fact, I was completely uncomfortable with what I considered to be the nonchalant attitude of the medical personnel at the hospital. This kind of attitude, I believe was not in conformity with the general information we got that Gbagada General Hospital was a better place for delivery of babies when we made an enquiry as to what hospital to register my sister for antenatal.

Early hours of Tuesday, which was the fifth day, another water broke, yet there was no contraction. At this point we were all wondering why no contraction. From our layman perspective, we wondered why the doctors are not considering opening her up to bring out the baby.  

Her husband was worried as well and expressed same to the doctors. To my amazement, observation and suggestion irritate the doctors. They would ask egoistically, “are you the one to tell us what to do?” Then at about 10am on Tuesday, the fifth day, the female doctor on duty asked her to enter the delivery room and assured her that the baby must come out today. At this point, my sister raised an alarm that she was not feeling the baby’s movement as strong as she used to. Yet they did not pay attention to her observation. It was shocking that this critical observation would not alter their course of action.

My sister was later taken to the delivery room, where she was abandoned for a while. Another thing that shocked me was that there was not coordination in the doctors’ discharge of their responsibilities. They were in short, not working as a team, seeking to achieve a common goal or set of goals. For example, when my sister lied idly unattended to in the delivery room, one doctor would come in and asked what she was doing in the delivery room and instructed her to go back to the general ward as she was not ready to deliver. Another one would come with a different instruction entirely, asking her to stay in the labour room.  We were worried about my sister and the level of confusion, which was palpable in the air.

Towards the afternoon on the fifth day, they decided to induce her. She went into forced labour which lasted for about four hours. That did not work and the time was about 4PM. At that point, they now decided to go for a Caesarean section.

For reasons unknown to us, it took another, 6 hours before the Caesarean section operation was carried out. When the baby was brought out, his heart was beating but no breath as a result of stress from prolonged labour. The pediatrician who tried to save the baby asked, “for how long was this woman in labour?” When she was told that she was in labour for 5 days and few hours, she was palpably in shock. Same was the reaction of a matron, who rushed out and asked same question.

All they did to save the baby was in vain as his heart finally stopped beating latter. Then the gynecologist assigned to my sister walked pass us without a word and went down to his ward to sleep. It was the pediatrician and the matron that came to inform us about the death of the baby and expressed their sympathy.

Back at the ward, I raised my voice and challenged the nurses to explain what happened to the child. To my challenge, the nurses replied, without an iota of remorse, “don’t start what you cannot finish.” The insensitive reaction of the nurses angered me, yet, I felt helpless.  Nobody volunteered to explain to us what happened and why. It took insistence from me and my brother-in-law for one female doctor to try explaining that they did not know why things turned out the way it did. I don’t like it when people try to mystify their obvious negligence. Anyway it took the intervention of the female doctor upon the insistence of my brother-in-law to get the gynecologist assigned to my siste to wake up from sleep and make his own attempt to answer our questions. All he kept on saying was that he was sorry. They asked us to find comfort in the other kids and trust God to bring another one.

I welcome you comments on this story. Thank you and have an INSPIRED Day.

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Read My Short Story…Yet Very Intructive:The Unknown Teacher and the Bathroom Slippers.

Welcome to FireWorks on Monday. I am here this day to do something very simple. I am here to share with you as teachers and parents that one example is worth more than a billion of instruction.

I therefore submit that there is no better way to lead and discipline children except by example…To attempt anything otherwise is to set up the children under our care for frustration and double standard. I leave my story today to do the rest of the talking.

It was career day in a primary school and children were asked to come to school modeling the profession they intend to pursue in the future. A child, who wanted to become a teacher, had a running battle with her parents, when she packed a pair of bathroom slippers. The parents insisted that a pair of bathroom slippers is not in the dress code of a teacher. The child insisted it was. When the parents further probed, the child said, ‘our teacher in some cases wear a pair of bathroom slippers to the class room to teach.

It is important to note that this child was originally inspired by the father, who is also a teacher in another school. You can imagine the kind of conflict of modelling that the child is exposed to. I leave the rest of the story to your imagination. The lesson is clear: ‘children do not do what we say…They do what we do…Again, even when we do not say…What we do says a lot to the children, who keenly observe us. 

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Child Protection CREED 6: Do ALL at ALL TIMES as it depends on you in THE BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILD.

The UNITED NATIONS CONVENTION ON THE RIGHTS OF THE CHILD (CRC), 1989 and CHILD’S RIGHTS ACT (CRA) enacted by the National Assembly of the Federal Republic on Nigeria 31st July, 2003. Article 3(1) of the CRC  and Section 1 of the CRA jointly provide, ‘in every action concerning a child, whether undertaken by an individual, public or private body, institutions or service, court of law, or administrative or legislative authority, THE BEST-INTEREST-OF-THE-CHILD shall be the PRIMARY CONSIDERATION.

The best interest of the child is not served when acts are perpetrated (by commission or omission) deliberately or otherwise that militates against the development of the complete child. Who is the complete child? A child is not complete until he is prepared spirit, soul (mind, will and emotion) and body for the daunting challenges of adulthood.

Think the Child! Think Today! Think the Future!

Do have an INSPIRED Weekend

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Child Protection CREED 5: No one or family should bring or be allowed to bring to this world a child they have no concrete plan for his/her spiritual, emotional and physical development.

This is a case for family planning as a family initiative and government policy and not an endorsement of abortion, except where the life of the mother is endangered

A child has 5 basic needs, namely, someone to believe, something to believe, somewhere to belong, something to become and something to be responsible for. It is my professional submission that before a child is born, the custodians must figure out how all these basic needs are going to be met. The preparations to meet these needs are made by the immediate family of the child and the state. The state provides social support services, which the family of the child can lean on to give the child a hope and a future.

There are 133 million births each year. 29.2 million of the 133 million are born in Africa. The question is what is the plan for these children by the parents and society? In recent study by The Economist, Nigeria has been identified as the worst place to be born in 2013.  The Economist explains: ‘America, where babies will inherit the large debts of the boomer generation, languishes back in 16th place. Despite their economic dynamism, none of the BRIC countries (Brazil, Russia, India and China) scores impressively. Among the 80 countries covered, Nigeria comes last: it is the worst place for a baby to enter the world in 2013.’

My friend is a medical doctor. His wife also is medical doctor with LUTH. He has 2 children. He understands what it takes to bring up children. Now, his gateman in his office has 9 children. One day, my friend asked him why he has so many children. He responded by saying that he had so many because he believed that at least of his 9 children will make it in life and become the family’s lifeline out of poverty. Do you see his thinking?

I must also tell you that this is the general thinking of people in this category. Unknown to him, he does not know that the more the children, the more the possibility of them not getting the required care and the leaner the chances of any one of them making it in life except by divine intervention. Another reason why the poor have many children is because of the general belief among them that some of the children will not live. They need to have so many so that when one or some die they may have children left. Another reason why the poor, many middle class and even the rich have many children is when they are not pleased with the sex of their children. In most cases they want a male child. Erroneously, they believe that the girl child is inferior to the boy child. It is an unfounded traditional belief, yet so strong in Africa.

I think we should be careful how we bring children to a country without a viable social support system for child development. It must therefore become the responsibility of the informed among us to educate the uninformed and debrief the misinformed.

Thank you for visiting today.

Think the Child! Think Today! Think the Future!

Have an INSPIRED Day

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