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The Birth of S.A.F.E™ Ville

At our S.A.F.E™ 4 ME Conference in 2017, gathering over 750 precious young people and over 250 distinguished STANDARDS BEARERS, we launched the S.A.F.E™ 4 ME Movement.

From our field experiences, interacting with children, young people and their primary and secondary caregivers, we have come to identify the S.A.F.E™ 4 ME Movement as the heartcry of the Nigerian child to be allowed to grow and fulfil his/her potentials in a FRIENDLY and PROTECTIVE ENVIRONMENT…

The foundation of the movement is the involvement of our precious children and young people in their own Personal Safety and Self-Protection. If they must be involved, they must be empowered, if they must be empowered, we must find a way to reach them at their level and their own language…

This is the spirit behind our monthly comic series, known as S.A.F.E™ Ville due to be released later this month…

The message the S.A.F.E™ Ville is born to drive is to identify and promote POSITIVE VALUE SYSTEM as the foundation of Personal Safety and Self-Protection, which is the real meaning of Securing A Friendly and PROTECTIVE ENVIRONMENT™ for the precious African children…

This monthly comic is for primary for our precious children and young people and primary and secondary caregivers, who love them…

To protect our precious children and teenagers in today’s volatile world, with all its complexities and complications is a task that must be done by ALL MEANS NECESSARY…

Be on the look out and we count on your kind support to drive this message home by the grace of God.

Do have an INSPIRED week.

Yours IN THE BEST INTEREST OF PRECIOUS AFRICAN CHILD,

The Preacher of S.A.F.E™ Ville

VIOLENCE AGAINST CHILDREN IN SCHOOL IS NOTHING BUT AN EFFECT: BUT WHAT IS THE CAUSE?

Permit me to add my voice to the outcry on violence against our precious children in schools.

I will like to say very quickly that in solving a social problem of any kind, we must be astute in separating causes from effects. Addressing the effects as the causes only sensationalise the issues and takes the sail off the wind of finding lasting solutions.

That there is violence in our schools both private and public is no more news. The 2018 reports of UNICEF on the drivers of Violence Against Children found that much.

What need to concern ourselves with today is the cause.

Permit me to submit that violence against children in Nigeria is not a CAUSE. It is an EFFECT. It is not a SEED…It is a FRUIT…It is not a ROOT…It is a BRANCH.

The root is this thing we call child discipline. Almost everyone who perpetrate violence against children at home and in schools do it in the name of discipline. The report I refer to about found Nigeria to be one of the top 10 countries in the world where violence is perpetrated against children in the name of discipline.

This practice of equating violence against our precious children with DISCIPLINE has it root in our culture as a people.

It is that culture that is comfortable with perpetrating violence against children and call it discipline that we must focus on through a rigorous orientation and reorientation and training and retraining on alternative forms of disciplinary measures.

Policy is critical but it may not be a primary concern here. For example, the Lagos State Government for some years now has a policy against corporate punishment in her schools. Yet, violence has not reduced against students.

The mistake, I think the Lagos State Government and many of us a making is that we want to change a prevailing cultural practice, backed up and fortified with the Dominant Value System of the people by policy. Such template does not exist anywhere in the world.

The people who perpetrate violence against our precious children were themselves raised through violence in most cases. They do not know other ways of helping children to experience the beauty of discipline, despite the fact that it is not always pleasant. What they do to the children in schools, they do to their own children at home if not worse.

They feel for the precious children under their care, when they are told violence must not be part of the the equation…They believe that without violent discipline the precious children are being spoilt and have no future.

We may fight the foregoing all we want, it is the reality on the ground and it will not change by the fiat of Law, Policy and Signature Gathering.

Taking, Lagos State as example, what is the investment of the Lagos State Government in orientation and reorientation intervention of public schools teachers? What is the budget for training on alternative forms of discipline?

I think I am more at home with the strategy of the SOS Children’s Village, Nigeria, who is investing heavily in the orientation and reorientation and training and retraining of public teachers in the areas where they work on the subject matter of discipline. SOS Children’s Village has also gone ahead to comission the preparation of Right-Based Approach to Discipline In School Manual, which lays the solid foundation for the underlying principles, aimed at helping teachers to embrace the revolution of POSITIVE DISCIPLINARY MEASURES.

I think this is the way we should be thinking. In ENVISIONING DESIGNING PLANNING and PROVIDING CARE, we must be interested in STANDARDS as an inevitable tool and find professional solutions to every social problems, plaguing our precious children today in their legions.

I have been privileged to work with the SOS Children’s Village Nigeria in the last 5 years or so to achieve the foregoing and I can testify firsthand that it works and it is working.

I suggest we can also embrace this challenge in our areas of influence and I am available to help in giving further and clearer perspectives to the foregoing suggestions. As a song writer says, ‘revolution starts with ONE…Don’t be afraid to be the ONE…’ One person at a time, one school at a time, I think we can reduce and ultimately stop violence against our precious children in schools, focusing on the right tools.

Do have an INSPIRED week.

Yours IN THE BEST INTEREST OF THE PRECIOUS CHILDREN CHILD,

Taiwo AKINLAMI

The Preacher

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SENSATIONALISM DRIVES PARANOIA AND ATTACKS THE VERY BEST INTEREST OF THE PRECIOUS AFRICAN CHILD:  HERE IS HOW…HERE IS WHAT WE MUST DO AND DO FAST!

Check my platforms, I don’t post trending headlines and videos…It is a DELIBERATE practice predicated on principles, which I will attempt to address here to the best of my ability.

As far as I am concerned those things must be posted carefully and caution, lest one becomes unnecessarily sensational.

And if they must be posted, we must do so with the following in mind:

How do we post within the context of proffering workable, professional and contextualised solutions?

What is the source and what are the intentions? For example, the video of the two children kissing, how was it captured? Was it manually captured by a person or by CCTV? If it was captured by a person, was the idea of capturing the video more important to the person capturing it than stopping the children from abusing themselves? If it was a CCTV footage, how how did it leak out to become a sad commodity for public consumption? If it is a CCTV footage, was the purpose of installing a CCTV camera in a school for example not for the school consumption, to be aware, prevent and respond to any act or omission that are inimical to the BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILD, except such footage is demanded by regulatory bodies for public interest purposes? And if it was demanded by regulatory bodies, what are the processes guiding the release of such to the public?

In the real sense of it, that children abuse themselves sexually today should not be news to any conscious and informed caregiver. How, in actual reality does the posting of the video under review help our understanding of that reality?

If as a society, we are more interested in posting and resposting of materials, are we not likely to be raising an army of insensitive people, who see preventable action or omission of abuse among children or in the society but are more interested in capturing for repost instead of stopping the act or omission?

Which is more beneficial to the children involve, capturing of the act or omission or stopping them from abusing themselves?

It is a volatile world today and that is no more news. The truth is that everyone seems to know the problem but only very few know the solution or even make DELIBERATE efforts to find the solutions…

Posting sensational headlines of abuses of children by adults or child to child abuse like the recent pictures of two children kissing, without a deliberate attempt to find out the causes and proffer professional solutions only heightens people’s fears and drives them to the precipice of PARANOIA, where they become suspicious of everybody, including themselves.

The last time I checked, PARANOIA is NOT a tool of Securing A FRIENDLY and PROTECTIVE Environment™ for our precious children. It only worsens the state of minds of caregivers and their precious children and make them susceptible to what they fear most.

I don’t really care what is trending, call it Mobo Challenge, I only care about how must we have prepared our precious children to fare in today’s volatile world. There will never be a time in today’s world, where caregivers will be fully abreast of all the dangers our precious children will be exposed to. Same way as human beings, we can never be fully aware of all the dangers we are exposed to.

The solution therefore is to churn sensationalism and focus on the harder work of creating for our private and public institutions (including the FAMILY) SYSTEMS of Securing A FRIENDLY and PROTECTIVE Environment™ according to GLOBAL STANDARDS, codified into POLICIES on which every caregiver is trained. As Olakunle SORIYAN will say, ‘what will come will come; it is who we are that makes a difference.’ I will also add that what will come will come; it is the preparation we make that makes all the difference.

If we spend as much time and data we spend on sensationalism on asking the right questions and seeking professional solutions, our children will be better of. Sensationalism, I must conclude by saying, it very inimical to the BEST INTEREST OF THE PRECIOUS AFRICAN and it must be stopped now!

As caregivers in the sophisticated 21st Century, grappling with the reality of The Fourth Industrial Revolution, we must DELIBERATELY change our game of ENVISIONING, DESIGNING, PLANNING and PROVIDING CARE to comply with the strange realities of today. We must drop the torn and dirty toga of surface thinking and sporadic response to matter of S.A.F.E™ and put on the full armour of VALUE and SYSTEM BASED APPROACH.

The 21st century caregivers must today DELIBERATELY transform from just being a DUTY BEARERS to becoming a STANDARDS BEARERS and VALUE and SYSTEM are the eternal language of STANDARDS as VIGILANCE is the price of LIBERTY.

Do have an INSPIRED week.

Yours IN THE BEST INTEREST OF THE PRECIOUS CHILDREN CHILD,

Taiwo AKINLAMI

The Preacher

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AN IMPORTANT INVITATION

WE ARE BORN TO PLAY…
Take PLAY away from us, you take away the core of our souls…
Children yearn to PLAY…Do we know this as a fact worth respecting, if so, do we know how to achieve same? If we achieve same how do we keep our precious children PLAYING through CHILDHOOD and for life and reap the benefits of a PLAYFUL LIFE? Does the LAW say anything about our precious children and PLAY? Our precious children have the right to play? Are there protective limits to these rights? So many principles to reveal or remind us of.

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I, The Preacher personally look forward to receiving you distinguished STANDARDS BEARERS and wish you an INSPIRING VIEWING.

Kindly help share within your network…Thank you.

The S.A.F.E™ of STANDARDS

This question came up on a Facebook Group I belong to and here are my responses

Question:

How do u help a stubborn 14years old girl stop sex, I need advice please

First I don’t think there is such thing like ‘stubborn’ 14 year old…

I do not also think it is a matter of general discussion…You may not be able to help her except you first understand her story…The behaviour is never the problem but the socialisation of the child, which I call her story…

So, there may be need for personal counseling with an expert to understand what the issues are before offering help…

It is like asking, how do I handle stubborn headache in a general forum…No doctor will make prescription without first diagnosing the patient because headache is one thing but the causes differ from persons to persons…

Principles are forever universal but the application are forever perculiar…

If you DM we I can help and make some recommendations.

Do have an INSPIRED week and thank you for your concern for this very precious child, who greatness cannot be in doubt by this very act or omission but by how we handle it… Thank you
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As I post this, I again remember one of the programs of our NGO S.A.F.E™ for Children Society, S.A.F.E™ for ME Movement, under which we visit a School a month to deliver talks on how young people can take full responsibility for their Personal Safety and Self-Protection from all forms of abuse, any form of indulgences like sex and drug addiction.

It is our irresistible conclusion that in matter of Securing A Friendly and PROTECTIVE Environment™ for the precious African child, Enlightenment is Superior to Enforcement…Thus we are ready to be invited to your school to deliver this one-hour talk FREE OF CHARGE.

Send me a direct message to take advantage of this invaluable gift for the precious children under your care….

To learn how to help young people like this precious one, I personally invite you to attend The S.A.F.E™ School of STANDARDS ™ slated to hold on Saturday, March 30, 2019 in Lagos, Nigeria…You may also send me a Direct Message to secure your seat at the program…It is FREE but Registration is required

Do have an INSPIRED week.

Yours IN THE BEST INTEREST OF THE PRECIOUS AFRICAN CHILD,
Taiwo AKINLAMI
The Preacher
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TODAY, I VOTE FOR MY CONSCIENCE… I VOTE FOR MY FUTURE…I VOTE FOR YOU…

Today I go out to vote.
For who do I vote today?
I vote for conscience,
My own conscience,
I vote for the future,
My own future.

He is relegated to the background,
The background of issues,
And the background of actions.
He is out of school in over thirteen million,
He is denied of access to health in its basics,
Shelter remains a mirage of luxury,
He is not mentioned in the infrastructure of the stomach,
Violence is his lots in the name of discipline,
Abuses, emotional, sexual and neglect are now his closest companions.

He is a person of sorrow,
Acquinted with grief,
It seems these days, his life does not matter,
He is not seen,
And not heard,
He is called the underprivileged,
Yet, he is the denied,
He comes from the wombs of the hewers of wood and drawers of water,
The Fanon’s wretched of the earth.

I am The Preacher,
I vote for him who is not the ballot papers,
He is not ‘ATIKULATED’ for the NEXT LEVEL,
He is not accommodated on the wings of the THIRD FORCE,
I vote for my conscience,
I vote for my future,
I vote for my precious children,
I am father of so many.
My child, I vote for you today,
I vote for you always.

(C) 2019 by Taiwo AKINLAMI
The Preacher
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