It is the eve of the New Year and I am compelled to do brief reflections on my work with children and their caregivers in Nigeria. 

Permit me to submit that I am signing out of the year 2017 on a sober note. By the grace of God, I make bold to say that we covered some grounds this year but my soberness today is that there are much more grounds to be covered as it relates the children’s Rights and Responsibilities, CARE and Protection, Childhood Preservation and Family Strengthening
In my article, written to mark Nigeria’s 57th flag Independence, published in the Vanguard newspaper on September 30, 2017, I submitted as follows:
‘How do I wish our precious children happy independence, when as it is today the families, community and state are yet to accept that abject poverty is the greatest threat to the protection of our precious children and have no concrete plan for SOCIAL PROTECTION, which ILO began to propounded since 2014 as the number solution to seemingly insurmountable inequality in our world today, particularly as it affects our precious children?’
I concluded that piece on the following sobering note,  ‘hmmm, how…how…how? I don’t seem to wrap my mind round rolling out the drums but to call for deliberate actions aimed at ending the sufferings of our precious Nigerian children and END VIOLENCE AGAINST THEM in THEIR BEST INTEREST and the PRESERVATION of our PRESENT and FUTURE of our great nation.’
As we sign out of 2017, the situation has not changed. 
Let me dwell on education as a an example of one of the challenges that the precious Nigerian children face. 
It is no longer news that Nigeria has the largest number of children out of School in the world, put by President Muhammad Buhari to be 13.2. Majority of those who are in school are not receiving relevant education, capable of  helping them to be useful in the labour market. As a matter of fact, the educational sector, both private and public is in dire crisis as it is not regulated and lacks uniformity in curriculum, training of educators, remuneration of educators, conducive 

learning environment and learning aids. 
We just seem to have accepted as normal the fact that pre primary, primary and secondary education are in the hands of the private sector. There are over 18,000 private schools in Lagos State where I live, competing with 1,700 public schools. Many parents are under extreme pressure today to send their children to school. Those, whose parents struggle to send to schools today can be said to have conditional access to education. These children are often sent out of school because of the inability of the parents to meet up with the obligation of paying school fees. 
My father was middle level staff at the defunct National Bank of Nigeria (NBN) and my mother was a petty trader in Erekesan market in Ado Ekiti, where I grew up. My education was never a social and economic burden for them. I often say to people that I was public child. I went to public primary and secondary schools and public University. I enjoyed the Free Education program of the UPN. My school fees per session in Lagos State University was N90(ninety) Naira. That is same LASU that the fees went as high as 250,000 about 15 years after my graduation from the higher institution. 
The story of today’s parents is different. I am conscious of the fact that we should encourage parents to only bring to this world children they have the social and economic capacity to look after. Yes, but who should propopse and enforce that? It is still the State, like nations like China has done. 
It is important to note that millions of Children in the North-East Nigeria are orphaned and unaccompanied in IDP camps. Many are denied of food and heath facilitates. The Boko Haram crisis has make that part of the country difficult for children to live in. We hear about the N1 Billion daily that the government of the day plans to spend on fighting Boko Haram but we do not hear about what is to be spent to rehabilitate these precious but poor children, whose only sin is that they were born in Nigeria.
Few years ago I had shouting march at with a director of Child Development from one of the states of Nigeria at conference on the issue of Child Labour. The director wanted us to address the issue of Child Labour without addressing the issue of poverty of the parents, who sent their children on the streets. The director didn’t want to accept any culpability on the part of the Nigerian State. Obviously, the director was not aware or pretended not to be aware of the position of International Labour Organization(ILO) since 2014 or thereabouts that Social Protection must be pursued as the leading solution to fruitfully tackling Child Labour globally. I ended my contribution by asking just one question: how many of those who were in the conference, considering their obvious comfortable or average state in life would send their children to the streets to engage in Child Labour?  
I was at a press conference few years back where a top state government functionary was announcing the program of the state government against child abuse. After unfolding the beautiful program, I asked just one question. I referred to densely populated and poor areas of the state, where abuses are more rampant and asked, if is not possible for people to give what they do not have, how do parents, whose entire existence is abuse rise up to protect their children from abuse. 
The challenge we face today is that we live in a state without respect for dignity of human person. How does that state respect the rights of children and create a conducive environment for their peaceful development? 
Here is my final submission, I have never been a rabble rouser and I do not intend to become one in the years ahead. I am not a critic or an enemy of the state. I only preach the Gospel for the protection of the precious Nigerian Child. 
Having been in the trenches since 1997, I understand the difference between short-term and long-term interventions. The short-term interventions must never be an end but a means to an end, the end being  long -term interventions, which aim is to create a conducive and structured environment for the Total Childhood Management and Child Development. The long-term interventions must have their eyes on holding government accountable to the responsibilities of the WELFARE and the SECURITY of the citizens under the Social Contract and the 1999 Constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria. 
Empowerment of parents and other caregivers is as far as I could concerned part of short-term interventions, if the goal is to encourage parents and other caregivers to carry on without the support of the state in their children protection and development efforts. Until the goal of an empowerment efforts of parents and other caregivers goes beyond the foregoing and extends to mobilising  them to hold government accountable for their WELFARE and SECURITY, which has great impact on their social and financial ability to provide the best of care for the precious children, such empowerment efforts will not bring lasting relief nor be part of strategies for long-term interventions. Above all, such efforts will represent nothing but impotent tokenism. 
Also, providing individual support through personal efforts and institutional support through NGOs, FBOs and CBOs for indigent, abused and neglected children must be encouraged and applauded as short-term interventions. But beyond providing material and intellectual support directly to children and their primary and secondary caregivers, initiators of the foregoing efforts must be interested in a more permanent solutions of engaging the State and her apparatus by playing the roles of regulatory bodies, who provide enabling environment for child protection and development by developing systems, policies and regulations. To act as if the state does not exist or does not have a social contact with the people will amount to noting but excusing the state and embracing tokensim. 
The challenge with tokenism is that it is often not sustainable. Where it is sustainable, it does not provide solutions to the majority and the solutions tokenism provide for the minority is often weak in quality. Tokenism is often built around people, whose greatest asset is passion and not a system. Above all, tokenism makes heroes of the initiators at the expense of the people, whose cause and interests they claim to represent. Their social and economic conditions get better while the situation of the people do not experience tangible and enduring change. 
Yes, family is the number one ring of protection and it must be strengthened and I do a lot of that. But it will amount to tokenism ending the intervention there, without identifying the other three rings of protection and the inevitablity of their roles in protecting the child. The other three rings are the community, state and international community. It is globally settled that these three rings have a primary responsibility to empower the family to effectively play the role of protection.
In 2018, TA Academy will continue her empowerment programs but she will more than ever before pay attention to helping primary and secondary caregivers to understand the roles of the state and her functionaries in child protection and how to hold them accountable. 
We will focus a lot on working with like-minded individuals and organisations to  peacefully and respectfully engage the State and her apparatus, bringing credible suggestions for Systems and Policies for the protection of our precious children. We will not delude ourselves to think and submit to primary and secondary caregivers that that all they need to raise their children is personal determination and motivation. We will acknowledge the laudable roles of foregoing but we must move beyond same. 
I see an interesting but challenging year ahead for the precious Nigerian Children, their primary and secondary caregivers and those who defend their right. 
I really hope that 2018 will help us to evolve a conversation that will lay a solid and inevitable foundation for the narrative of what it takes to raise happy and balanced children through the instrumentality of child protection.
I may not today have enough tangible reasons to with the precious Nigerian Children Happy New Year, but I wish them an INSPIRED New Year.
I am Taiwo AKINLAMI and I am Sober on my Knees on the New Year’s Eve…
Think the CHILD…Think TODAY…Think the FUTURE™

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I, The Preacher live in some level of comfort and has made some friends in high places in his country and beyond her shores. The Preacher runs organisations, respected locally and internationally in his chosen field of endeavour, where by God’s grace, he is a leading light and a pioneer, with many well sought-after products and programs, making disciples of children, young people, men and women from all walks of life in their thousands and owing no man nothing but LOVE.  

The Preacher stands before the kings in his industry and beyond, The Preacher being a king himself, a co-creator in the industry, where he plays today. Having risen from abject poverty and abused childhood to a level of comfort and transformed adulthood, The Preacher represents an emerging true story of grass to grace. The Preacher lives in his ‘palace,’ in a highbrow area of the city and his office is located in the area too, where he operates like a Local Government Chairman, providing electricity, water, security, other social amenities at very prohibitive cost with his fellow well-to-do inhabitants, often referred to as residents.  
By the grace of God his organisations give some support to some indigent children and their caregivers to deplete the number of 10.5 million Nigerian child shut out of school, engage in pro bono legal and social services to indigent Nigerians, irrespective of their tribe and religious affiliation, borrow what we can afford to those who seek to borrow from us and gives gifts, according to our ability. 
The summation of The Preacher’s life today is that he lives does not live a life of just-enough. Knowing that the life of a man does not consist in the abundance of his possession, The Preacher lives in contentment and aspires for greater level of relevance, not for the purpose of satisfying stomach infrastructure as that has not been an issue in the last ten years, but for the purpose of being a blessing to the humanity around him and beyond. 
Despite all that I, The Preacher has enumerated above, the more I discover the infinite nature of the potentials, deposited in me by the Creator in His unfathomable magnanimity, the more I discover that Nigeria as it is deliberately structured today does not have what it takes in terms social, economic and political infrastructure to help The Preacher give unfettered expression to his highest aspirations first as a citizen and second as a conscious soul. I daresay that as it is with The Preacher, so it is with every conscious citizens in this clime today. 
This discovery of The Preacher as explained above imposes a heavy burden of concern, first for him and his children and millions of other so-called citizens, who do not have the kind of opportunities open to The Preacher and exposure thereof and are therefore forgotten as aliens and pariahs in their own native land. 
While The Preacher and his family may think of changing their location to developed climes of the world or go there from time to time and find better expressions to his true potential and legitimately too, but that is not the case for the majority of our people, who live and die in pitiable, yet avoidable instalments in their own land. 
Clear to the mind of The Preacher is the fact that one rich man or woman in the midst of legions of poor people is himself, a poor man or woman. Real wealth is democratised wealth, which opens majority of the members of society to access to basic needs of life like shelter, food, health, education, social security, work etc. The real wealth is called Social Protection, which root is found in the fundamental human rights of every citizen and respect for same first by the state, laying good example for other members of society to follow. 
To this heavy burden there are many options, the first, which may be in the best interest of self-preservation is to supress the burden, look another way and pretend everything is normal and continue to life in an unusual manner. The second is to book one way ticket and check out like Andrew, either to launch a social media attack from there or rest in your mind in false peace. The third is to become a spectator of those, who dare to engage the system, coming to them in the night like Nicodemus, who came to Jesus in the night, assuring them of your support, but stand fully aloof, passive and unconcerned during the day. The fourth one is to become disgruntled and angry and begin to launch virulent attack on the system and her representatives under the delusion that anger is a tool of social change, agonising instead of organising and encouraging so much motion without movement. The fifth is to ride on the success of the last, which secures the attention of the system, you may begin to trade your burden for the fleeting pleasure of Naira and Kobo. 
The sixth is that you may join the league of those who seek to seize the reins of power, without asking the critical question of how does your victory alleviate the suffering of the people, forgetting that seizing power is one thing and securing the services of altruistic members of society, who have the capacity to serve the people is another. The seventh is that you may embrace patience, anchored on social and political maturity, sit down with the drawing board, with like minds, designing credible and tested alternatives to all that you have observed to be wrong with the society, place it on the fulcrum of a social, economic and political ideology, peculiar to the people, their yearnings, hopes and aspiration and begin a long-term and peaceful mobilization along the lines of the articulated alternatives and ideology. 
The goal of the last option is to involve the majority or a tangible number of the people in their own emancipation. History has shown that the best of transformation, which answers to sustainability happens when the people are deliberately involved in the process, seeing same evolving from them as inevitable part and being in control of same. 
I, The Preacher gravitates toward the last. Permit me to end my lamentations here today.  This continues another day with the ‘THERE IS SOMETHING IN ME’ phrase, which The Preacher abandoned today to lay out his motive for his lamentations. 
Do have an INSPIRED weekend. 
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I, The Preacher, I am conscious fellow…I mean I am socially and politically conscious and concerned…

There something in me that does not accept the debilitating poverty to which the mass of our people are subjected to today, simply by the reason of their citizenship…
There something in me that does not want to celebrate pockets of so-called achievements of individuals and organizations in Nigeria, which does not in any way translate into lifting the majority of our people from the doldrums of social inequalities and abject poverty…
There is something in me that does not want accept any more, the impotent mantra of the practitioners, sponsors and protagonists of motivational speaking that it does not matter your Social background and economic environment you can make it, forgetting that your social background and economic environment has unusual impact on you. Please how does the foregoing mantra help 10.5 million Nigerian children, who are excluded from access to schools, except to agitate for their inclusion by all means necessary?
The most celebrated motivational speakers are not from Africa…They are from developed countries, particularly America. As a matter of fact, motivational speaking as we know it in Nigeria today is largely influenced by America. America is a developed country where the state and its government have taken appreciable responsibility for the personal development of their people and have put in place working system and structures to bring their yearnings, hopes and aspirations of the people to fruition…For example, America is called the land of opportunities, where people are empowered to live in pursuit of personal and general happiness. In America, social consciousness is encouraged to create Public Will for people-oriented causes. 
I therefore think that it is an unforgivable fallacy for us to situate and transplant everything the American or European motivational speaker is saying to Africa and Nigeria without considering the context in which he is saying it, the people to whom he is saying he is saying it and our own peculiar context here and the state of our people here. It is important to note that when the American motivational speaker speaks or writes, he/she does not cite African examples or use African personae or places. This may be a clue that it is not everything he or she is saying that is meant for us. Since it is the responsibility of those who receive information to process it, the motivational speaker from a developed clime cannot be held responsible for our inability or refusal as Africans to understand that principles may be a universal commodity but for its application to answer the requirement of wisdom, it must respect the peculiarities of the space and the people, where the principles are to be applied…
It has been said that there is no motivational that can make a carpenter to perform surgery…This example means motivation is beyond telling people that determination is all they need to achieve their dreams, where they are able to dream. For a dream to become a reality, there must be articulated and tested process, sustained by an operational systems. In the case of the dream of a citizen of a country, these process and operational systems must be encouraged, created or support by the state and her government…
Let me declare unequivocally that when you live in a state like Nigeria, where the State as represented by successive governments has refused to pay ACTUAL NOTICE to the hopes, yearning and aspiration of the people, it is not enough to dream and hope to see the dream come to reality like in other climes, where the state and her government pays ACTUAL NOTICE. In Africa, the state pays what I call MENTAL NOTICE to the aspirations of her people. To pay MENTAL NOTICE is to be aware somewhere in the forgotten region of your mind that you govern a people, for whom you are responsible for their WELFARE and SECURITY. To pay ACTUAL NOTICE is to think ahead of the needs and threats to the citizens and make adequate preparations to meet those needs and mitigate or obliterate those threats well before they arise…
Let me say at this point that any attempt to claim that we want to motivate the people in the Third World or Africa to achieve their dreams, without addressing the uncivilized and abandoned social, political and economic state of our continents and her peoples WILL NOT WORK…At least alluding to it or mentioning it may be the beginning of introducing the people to a conversation we need to have in Nigeria. 
I even consider it, a game of deception and at highest level of candour, a fraud of a massive magnitude, to which the judgment of history will be justifiably scathing. If we continue this way, what we will continue to see is people paying in cash and kind for the programs and events of the motivational speaker without too obvious and enduring results. On the other hand the life of the motivational speaker gets better. 
Despite our massive consumption of motivational materials, the candid question is how many world-class home-grown global brands do we have in Nigeria with our so-called wealth of wisdom. The book that I read says, wisdom is known by her children. Our greatest contributions to the global economy till today is still CONSUMPTION, pure and simple. 
It is my persuasion that it is impossible for an average Nigerian, whose all of his hopes are in this country to find full expression for their God-ordained potentials to achieve same. 
There is something in me that rejects a concoction of motivational capsules, (which has no respect for a people’s social realities) built on expiring anaesthetic of false hope of a utopian Eldorado, which when it wears out as it surely does(from time to time) puts the people in the worse state than when they received it. 
The lamentations continue another day because there is something in me that has finally rejected SILENCE as a tool of self-preservation. 
There is something in me saying it is time to start meaningful conversations, aimed at creatively engaging all of us and the system, which seek to divert our attention from the reals issues to shadow chasing. 
We cannot continue invest the best of our mental and financial resources into finding the cure of ringworm when festering and contagious leprosy is left to hold uninterrupted sway, eating off every part of the body, and rendering same useless to the owner and his/her neighbours, who may soon, very soon suffer same fate, to the detriment of the larger society. 
Do have an INSPIRED day. 
I am Taiwo ‘ODINAKACHUWU’ AKINLAMI (The Preacher) 

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We are Barristers and Solicitors of the Supreme Court of Nigeria, whose core areas of practice in the last 20 years have been Social Development and Child Rights and Responsibilities, Care and Protection, Childhood Preservation and Family Strengthening, and working with local and international organizations as researchers, facilitators and consultants like UNICEF, the British Council, UNFPA, SOS Children Villages International, Federal and Lagos, Oyo, Ogun, Osun, Ekiti, Edo, and Delta States Governments, just to mention a few. Law and its social impact on society is critical and foundational to our solutions and our qualification as legal practitioners empowers us to effectively operate in these area?


Taiwo AKINLAMI Academy is registered with CAC with RC Number 999162 with the following leading objectives, ‘to run an academy as a social enterprise, which provides services in the area of empowerment and enlightenment on the protection and safety of children, law and entrepreneurship, general legal enlightenment, personal and corporate social responsibilities to individuals, families, local and international organizations in the private and public sectors through consulting, short-term and long-term certificate and non-certificate training programs, certifications, conferences and legal representation before and outside the courts of law.

3. WHAT IS YOUR OVERALL SOCIAL BACKGROUND AND PROOF OF THE EFFECTIVENESS OF YOUR SOLUTIONS?  Taiwo AKINLAMI’s divinely-guided and courageous journey from the seemingly insurmountable impact of truncated CHILDHOOD (marked with untold and bizarre forms of abuses, both from the hands of his primary and secondary caregivers) to transformed adulthood began in February 16, 1997, when he had an unforgettable encounter with God.

It is instructive to note that the principles of our Child Rights and Responsibilities, Care and Protection, Childhood Preservation and Family Strengthening solutions, being disseminated today on the many platforms of our Social Empowerment Advocacy™ (SEA)  flow from Taiwo AKINLAMI’s personal  discoveries as he sought total healing from the seemingly insurmountable impact of his truncated CHILDHOOD.

The efficacy of the Taiwo AKINLAMI’s discovered principles were first established for us by his healing experiences before they became subjects of further research efforts to find solutions, which directly speaks to the Third World, considering the fact that his experiences are situated within the Third World and are borne out of our peculiarities as peoples of a developing African continent.

We recognise that in matters of Child Rights and Responsibilities, Care and Protection, Childhood Preservation and Family Strengthening, principles may be universal by nature, but their effective application must be predicated on the Dominant Value System of the people, which must inform their legal and social frameworks, if the noble goal is to achieve enduring results.

Since 1997, over $500,000(Five Hundred Thousand Dollars) in human and financial investment have been made towards Social Empowerment Research efforts, aimed at further testing the efficacy the principles of Taiwo Akinlami’s personal transformation principles and their relevance to today’s Africans in their quest to provide adequate protection for the precious African Child.


By the combined implication of paragraphs 1-3 above and most importantly that we are the creator and the intellectual property owner of all of our solutions, under an umbrella name, known as iProtect™, under local and international laws, therefore we are empowered by the law to share and certify interested people to train same solutions.

It is important to note that we are the SOURCE and PIONEER of our solutions in law and indeed and therefore, we are empowered under the law to share same with other interested people and empower them to share with others.

It is important to note that same way the international organizations like John C. Maxwell, Microsoft, FranklinCovey are the intellectual Property owners and pioneers of the solutions on which they certify interested people so Taiwo AKINLAMI Academy owns the intellectual property to her solutions and disseminate same to individuals, local and international organizations and governments as we have done since 1997.

Our intellectual rights over our solutions can be likened to that which inventors have over their inventions. In this case, our solutions are SOCIAL INVENTIONS.


First, our certificate programs are to certify that you have received the KNOWLEDGE, SKILLS and ATTITUDE, being disseminated by us under our solutions and your effectiveness has been enhanced as primary and secondary caregivers and policy makers in the areas of Child Rights and Responsibilities, Care and Protection, Childhood Preservation and Family Strengthening, thereby creating a new Africa, where THE BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILD is primary considerations in all things.

Our certification programs, are available for those who have completed our certificate programs. They are certify our participants to disseminate our programs, which the intellectual property we own under the law.

Our certificates may also be presented when it is requested anywhere as the basis upon which the certified person trained.

Certificate/Certifications of some members of our Academy and personnel trained by us have been accepted by reputable local and international organizations.


Presently, we have trained over 30,000 parents and caregivers and 15,000 young people from all walks of life, we have about 400 people in our iProtect™ Academy and have worked with hundreds of local and international organizations, like ACSI, AISEN, APEN, NAPPS, UNICEF, the British Council, SOS Children’s Villages International, Facebook, Google and others with outstanding results.


Since our solutions on Child Rights and Responsibilities, Care and Protection, Childhood Preservation and Family Strengthening, under the umbrella name of iProtect™, which are globally compliant and locally applicable, are CONSISTENTLY ACCEPTED and APPLAUDED as RELEVANT, EFFECTIVE and APPLICABLE in our field by REFERENCE, REPUTABLE, LOCAL and INTERNATIONAL ORGANIZATIONS and ARMS OF GOVERNMENT mentioned in paragraphs 1 & 8 above, it is therefore our ARDENT and JUSTIFIABLE BELIEF that same should be accepted to INDIVIDUALS, GOVERNMENTS and ORGANIZATIONS, who seek the advantage of an home-grown and applicable solutions to an internationally recognized subject matter of Child Rights and Responsibilities, Care and Protection, Childhood Preservation and Family Strengthening, thereby representing THE BEST INTEREST OF THE PRECIOUS AFRICAN CHILD at all times.


Our greatest advantage today is that ‘the taste of the pudding is always in the eating’ and the number one life transformed by our solutions is that of Taiwo AKINLAMI, our principal.

Above all, our greatest testimony is the lives of old and young, who have been transformed by our tested solutions.

Here are some testimonies of some of the reputable individuals and organizations, who have experienced our solutions.

‘Thank you again for all of your hard work in facilitating our 1st ever Child Protection awareness event for school counsellors. IT WAS INDEED A SUCCESS. Thanks to your participation and IMPRESSIVE FACILITATION SKILLS!  COMPLEX AND SENSITIVE CHILD PROTECTION MATERIALS were put forward in a PRACTICAL way that ENABLED PEOPLE to THINK CRITICALLY about their OWN RESPONSIBILITIES TO SAFEGUARD CHILDREN.’ Andrea Watkins, The British Council Interim Regional Child Protection Manager for Middle East & North Africa (MENA) & Sub-Saharan Africa (SSA)(2016)

‘I commend your presentation. It was backed up with so much passion. We all found it very inspiring and will definitely recommend you to others.’ Dr. (Mrs.) C.O. Ogunsanya, Managing Director, Oxbridge Tutorial College, G.R.A. Ikeja and Chairman, Association of Private Educators of Nigeria (APEN) Board of Trustees

‘I like your approach to Child Protection; it is highly philosophical.’  Mor Dioum, Director of The Victoria Climbe Foundation, United Kingdom, Legal Practitioner and leading Child Protection Specialist

Taiwo Akinlami, you blew my mind with your speech and knowledge. I salute you for standing up for children. I am in awe!’

‘Taiwo Akinlami is one of the most inspiring speakers of our times. I still remember his speech of three years ago like it was yesterday! Wow Afrika’ Dr. Tererai Trent, Educationist and Founder Tinogona Foundation, Zimbabwe/USA.

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‘So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; MALE and FEMALE he created them.’

Genesis 1: 27

I am glad I am with you dear friends today as we journey on to the promised land of safety.

Most importantly I am happy that I will be sharing with you matters that have to do with gender and the rights we all have concerning same.

We need to consider these tips because gender is today is a touchy issue for young people particularly in Africa. The reason is that we live a society that is male dominated and many still nurse the backward notion that the girl child is inferior to the boy child.

This unfounded belief of the superiority of one gender over the other or inferiority of one gender to the other has passed from one generation to the other. It is sad that this belief is finding its way in the midst of today’s children and young people.

By virtue of what the society teaches, many young people believe today that they are superior just by the fact that they are boys. On the other hand many believe that they are inferior merely by the fact that they are girls.

Having worked with children and young people in the last 20(twenty) years, we see this belief affecting the relationship which exists between the male and female genders, even from your age as young people.

It is sad that despite many achievement of the female gender, the majority of the society still do not believe that the girl child is a complete child.

On October 11, 2012 International Day of the Girl Child was declared by the United Nations to call attention to the many issues that the girl child is faced with all over the world.

The major focus of these series of tips on rights and gender issues is to help children and young people understand and accept that God created us MALE and FEMALE in HIS IMAGE for a reason. He did not make a mistake.

It is important to note that in the story of creation as found in the Holy Writ, the female gender is not an after-thought. It was not after God created man that he now thought of creating woman.

In fact in the story of creation, God placed the order for the creation of man and woman same time and blessed them equally with dominion. In the book of Genesis 1: 26-27, the Bible records as follows: 26 ‘Then God said, “Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness, so that they may rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky, over the livestock and all the wild animals, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.” 27 So God created MANKIND in his own image, in the image of God he created them; MALE and FEMALE he created them.’

Oh, you may argue that the man was formed before the woman. Yes agree with you, but that does not mean the man is superior. Let consider the example of twins, they are both created and stayed in womb, but one arrives on earth before the other. Does that make the first to arrive superior to the last to arrive? No, not at all…It is not the issue of superiority. If is an issues at all, it is an issue of ‘order of arrival.’

So the big question, should the first to arrive consider himself/herself superior just on the basis of arrival or be compelled by his/her world to think he/she is superior and treat the other as inferior? Now, if he/she could do that, it will also mean that our positions of influence in life and the respect we accord to people should only be determined by their age, the first to arrive on the scene by the purely reckoning of biology. The oldest person in the world should be richest and the youngest the poorest; the oldest person in a country should be the president and the youngest person, the least respected; the oldest person in a company(in age and hiring) should be the Chief Executive officer and the youngest person the office assistant or clerk. If the order of arrival does not carry the significance of superiority, why should the case be different when it comes to gender?

I beg you my dear children/teenagers and young people to allow me to conclude that we must never confuse arrival to creation. Man may be older than woman in arriving on the earth, but they were both created together and granted same permission on earth to excel in all things and do exploits.

Again, our society mistake the role of a woman as person for the role of a woman as wife. We must not get things twisted please. A woman is first a woman before she is a wife and she is not a better woman because she is married or a lesser one because she is not. Again her role as a partner in marriage is not inferior to that of man and the responsibility to make a marriage work, if she decides to get into one is laid on the shoulders of both genders. So, within and outside marriage, God has a plan for the woman as He has for a man within and outside marriage. Therefore, the totality of a woman is not defined by her marital status but by her contributions to life.

I really want to help you, dear precious children and young people to understand and accept that gender is a gift from God and an expression of His diversity and difference in manifestation.

It is been a long discussion today, longer than usual. It is because I just a passionate fellow about gender issues. Please forgive me. I will see you tomorrow by God’s grace. Do have an INSPIRED day.

The THINK Factor

I charge you to this about this: Gender places no limit on any child or young people. Therefore, gender has nothing to do with superiority or inferiority. It has all to do with the role, which God has assigned to each gender and must be understood and accepted that way. Record your thoughts in your Personal Journal, share your thoughts with your parents, friends and trusted and trusted caregivers.

Extracts from my book for Teenagers and Young Adults:  S.A.F.E™ (Securing A Friendly & Protective Environment) forYOU: 120 Daily Tips, due to be presented to the public on Monday, November 20, 2017.

Extract from my book for Teenagers and Young Adults:  S.A.F.E™ (Securing A Friendly & Protective Environment) for YOU: 120 Daily Tips


‘We must take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented.’ Elie Wiesel

Thank you for joining me here today. I hope we are learning and our eyes are being opened to the steps you can take to secure your own protection from all forms of abuse.

Today, I bring you the conclusion our nineteenth foundational principle: BEING YOUNG DOES NOT MEAN YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED TO SPEAK UP AGAINST SUSPICION OR ACTUAL ABUSE.

I will share with you a line of thought that I believe may help us drive home the whole issue of silence and the culture, which promotes it and the feeling of shame upon which it stands.

This is the line of though and I charge you for follow me closely. Now, if my bag, shoes, wristwatch and other valuable are stolen, I am encouraged to speak up. In fact I speak up and I do not get the treatment of shame from anybody in the society. In fact the society feel for me and they want the thief to be caught. In this case the society understands that I should not be the object of shame because I am not in any way responsible for stealing from myself.

Now here is my question, why is the case different when it is my virtue and dignity that is stolen through abuse. These virtue and dignity are so invaluable that once they are lost, it is only by divine intervention that they can be recoverable. So how come the society does not allow me to feel ashamed concerning talking about tangible valuables, which are easily replaceable, but expects me to be ashamed about my irreplaceable virtues and dignity, which abuse of any form take away from me? Who should the society be eager to apprehend, the person, who stole my valuables or the person, who stole my ‘invaluables’? Could it be that our society values tangible materials, which are temporal and perishable above intangible materials of virtue and dignity, which are eternal?

This is my charge and conclusion to you today. It is time to swim against the tide of the culture of silence, which is empowered by the feeling of shame. It is shameful that the society thinks that it is the abused that should feel shame instead of the abuser. It is shameful that the abuser is preserved from shame because the society believes that the abused should also be ashamed. Therefore to save the abused from shame, the abuser goes free, roaming the street, looking for the next possible victims to devour.

My fervent prayer today is that you will never fall victim of any form of abuse. I believe that if you take this 120 days journey with us, you are on your way to being free from all forms of abuse. But if for whatever reason you are abused, you must refuse to be ashamed.

Shame does not belong to you. It belongs to the abuser. He/she must not be allowed to go free because of shame.  Tell every caregiver, who cares to listen that shame does not belong to you but to the abusers and he/she must be made to face the shame.

This is a very important principle that you must hold very dearly. You must take it as the responsibility and mission of your generation to right the wrong of shaming the innocent and releasing the abuser from justice.

You are young, but you are not too young to change things and help our society to think straight and destroy the culture of celebrating abuse on the altar of shame and stigma.

Finally, I will have to rest this case here and give you room to think about it for the rest of the day, week and month and digest the information shared in the last 3 days for your personal use and the use of those around you.

The THINK Factor:

I think it is time to take your personal journal and write down the top 5 lessons you have learnt in the last 3 days addressing this 19th fundamental principle: BEING YOUNG DOES NOT MEAN YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED TO SPEAK UP AGAINST SUSPICION OR ACTUAL ABUSE. To go over it again and again until it sinks in your mind and be ready to practice same from today. Do not forget to share your lessons with your friends and your parents and other trusted caregivers.

I am Taiwo ‘ODINAKACHUWU’ AKINLAMI, Total Childhood Management and Child Development Expert, 2348033620843, 08056979605 W: http://www.taiwoakinlami.com B: taiwoakinlamiblog.com T: @taiwoakinlami E: Principal@taiwoakinlami.com


​Nigeria’s 57th Independence Celebrations: What Does the Nigerian Child Celebrate?

As we celebrate the 57th flag independence of our great nation, Nigeria, I think there is no better determinant of the state of our nation than the state of her precious children. According to Dr. Nelson Mandela, ‘there can be no keener revelation of a society’s soul than the way in which it treats its children.’

Dr. Nelson Mandela is very rights. And I think taking a careful look at the state of the precious Nigerian Child under this government and successive governments since our flag independence scores our society very low. Permit me to submit that in Nigeria, like many African, we take only take mental notice of children and not actual notice. Mental notice is never deliberate; it is an accidental affair, often authored by circumstances not within our control either by virtues of our ignorance or negligence. Actual notice speaks of conscious efforts of caregivers, aimed at achieving adequate care. What is CARE in the context? It is to anticipate the needs and threats to a child and make adequate preparation to meet the needs and mitigate the threats before they arise.

The report on Violence Against Children in Nigeria of the United Nations Children’s Fund (UNICEF), National Population Commission of Nigeria and supported by the US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, which published the findings from a National Survey in 2014 and launched in 2014 found that ‘there is a high prevalence of violence against children in Nigeria.’

The survey, which provides, for the first time, national estimates that describe the magnitude and nature of sexual, physical and emotional violence experienced by under-18 females and males in Nigeria submits as follows: approximately 6 out of every 10 children experience some form of violence; one in two children experience physical violence; one in four girls and one in ten boys experience sexual violence; one in six girls and one in five boys experience emotional violence. It is also found that children are exposed to multiple forms of abuse, therefore ‘violence against children is rarely an isolated incident.’

The report found that ‘children are not disclosing violence and not seeking or receiving services.’ It is further disclosed that children are not disclosing abuses because they will not be believed. 

The disposition of children is a reflection of our culture of silence when it comes to addressing the issues of abuse, which children are exposed to.

In response to troubling findings of the survey, priority actions were developed to stem the ugly tide of the present situation of the precious Nigerian child. The lead priority action is establishment of system’s approach to the protection of our precious children.

Beyond the report, it is today an open secret that Nigeria holds the world record of the number of children out of school. Nigeria is responsible for fifty percent of the total number of children out of school in the world. The BCC, in July 2017 reported as follows, ‘acknowledging the scale of the problem the education ministry’s permanent secretary Adamu Hussaini said it was “sad to note” that Nigeria had 10.5 million children out of school.’ The other question is that what kind of education are the children in school receiving?

I wonder what the future hold for a nation, which cannot educate her children. I wonder what the future holds for a country, which is not at war on the face of it but beats war-torn countries like Syria, Somalia, Libya, Yeme, Iran and other in the number of children out of school. It seems to me we are immersed in another kind of war, which our handlers are yet to define and the world is yet to take the needed and critical look at
Having being on the field for close to 20 years, pleading the cause of the Nigerian child, it is my conclusion that the foundation of every response must be enlightenment. Thus I say, ‘enlightenment is superior to enforcement,’ noting that both as primary and secondary caregivers, we treat children as we see them and we see them according to our dominant value system as a people.

I think the foregoing must form a critical part of our concern as we spare a thought for our precious children as we celebrate our 57th independence.

While we must hope for the best for the precious Nigerian child and commend present efforts at preserving his/her present and future as we mark our flag independence, I wonder if I can really from my conscience, wish the Nigerian child happy independence.

But I reaching to the deepest level of my heart, I am hopeful for the Nigeria hope. It is in fact hope against hope but resting on the word of Clare Boothe Luce ‘that there are no hopeless situations, only hopeless people.’ In the spirit of this hope, I wish the Nigeria Child, Happy but Sobering Independent day.

I am Taiwo ‘ODINAKACHUWU’ AKINLAMI, Total Childhood Management and Child Development Expert, 2348033620843, 08056979605 W: http://www.taiwoakinlami.com B: taiwoakinlamiblog.com T: @taiwoakinlami E: Principal@taiwoakinlami.com