‘In explaining to the child, we must never neglect the perspective of the child. If we must involve the perspective of the child, we must understand and use the language of the child. It is important that we know that language is a major tool of socialisation.’
Hello fellow custodians, please join me as I share with you the 20th core habit of a purposeful, disciplined and effective disciplinarian: Give reasons for your position:
I have discussed the need to hear out the child. I have also discussed that we cannot be a judge in our own cause when it comes to child discipline and development. The truth of the matter is that it is not enough to hear out the child. We are not to hear the child to fulfill all righteousness. We are to hear the child for the righteousness of establishing the real truth of discipline, which is not only to do all in the best interest of the interest of the child but to establish the norms of development for the child.
It is therefore important what we do with what we hear from the child. How do we prove that we are committed to working with what we hear from the child? One simple way to prove that we really hear the child and what he/she says matter is for us to take it on board in reaching a decision.
Besides, it is not enough to take it on board in reaching the decision; we must express that much to the child. How do express that to the child? We express it by referring to what the child say while we hear him or her out. When we have the foregoing at the back of our mind, we know that we cannot take a decision concerning the child on the issue of child discipline and development without taking time to explain to the child.
In explaining to the child, we must never neglect the perspective of the child. If we must involve the perspective of the child, we must understand and use the language of the child. It is important that we know that language is a major tool of socialisation.
Therefore whether we decide to exonerate the child or we want to subject the child to disciplinary measures, we must explain the basis for our decisions to the children under our custody. The foregoing exercise requires patience, humility and a sense of mission. Patience will help us to take our time, without which explanation will never take root. Humility will tame the custodian’s ego and sense of mission will help us to keep to the purpose of discipline.
I think I have to rest my case here and continue this conversation tomorrow. Do have an INSPIRED day.
Think the child…Think Today…Think Tomorrow…
POINT 2 PONDER:
‘One simple way to prove that we really hear the child and what he/she says matter is for us to take it on board in reaching a decision.’
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