‘Any time custodians do not make room for the frailties of the young ones, they are not raising children but fearful slaves. Anywhere children or adults are not allowed to give expression to their humanity creates nothing but siege mentality. The only thing they will be looking for is that day of emancipation. The human spirit is not created to be caged and chastised for what is normal.’
I was safe under the weather for the whole of last week. I guess my body successfully planned and executed a coup against me after many unheeded demands for some rest. Thank God for the coup. I think I am better off for it. Due to my sabbatical under the weather, I was not able to make it to this page for the whole of last week.
I am glad to be back to complete the topic I began many weeks ago. I will be sharing the 25th and the last core habit of a purposeful, disciplined and effective disciplinarian: do not discipline a child for human frailty.
Children are human and they do make mistakes. We must be in a position as custodians to differentiate between their errors which are as a result of their human frailties and errors, which are borne out of rebellion. Custodians have a responsibility to ensure they helps children to overcome the tendency to be rebellious. It is however an attack on the humanity of the child for the custodians to chastise a child for errors, which occur as a result of human frailties. Let me give some example. Many custodians chastise children on this part of the world for breaking plates in the process of washing them out of our human error. Children are often mercilessly beaten for misplacing money, with which they are sent on errand to buy an item for the family. The custodians are not interested in the events leading to the child’s errors; they are more interest in the value of the plate broken or the money missing.
Growing up, it was an abomination to break plates for any reason. It was an unpardonable sin for misplace money with which you were sent on errand. You must not spill water or milk. I grew up under an acute confusion and siege mentality. The acute confusion comes from the fact that I saw my parents broke plates countless times also. I expected them to cane themselves. They would not even comment about it. They would even cane me that I did not sweep the particles of the broken plates on time. In retrospect I felt it was double standard for my parents to chastise me for breaking plates and they would excuse themselves. I began to think that considering that they were supposed to be more matured in age and therefore more responsible and careful, they should have received greater measure of chastisement for breaking plates. Alas they did not receive any kind of chastisement.
Any time custodians do not make room for the frailties of the young ones, they are not raising children but fearful slaves. Anywhere children or adults are not allowed to give expression to their humanity, it creates nothing but a siege mentality. The only thing they will be looking for is that day of emancipation. The human spirit is not created to be caged and chastised for what is normal. I know what I am talking about because this was exactly how I felt growing up. There was no breathing space for human errors and maturation of human actions. Mistakes, which were common to man were treated like capital punishments.
Custodians, these things ought not to be so. I therefore beg you to watch out for this in attempt to raise disciplined children. I know a lot of us have good intentions. But alas, good intention is not enough. My parents meant well but their good intention was not strong enough to shield me from the impact of their wrong upbringing.
Well I think I will like to rest my case on this piece today. I hope you found it worth all the time invested to read same. Please join me tomorrow as I began to share with you My 35(thirty-five) Child Protection CREEDS. I am sure you will find it helpful and interesting. Do have an INSPIRED day.
Think the child…Think Today…Think Tomorrow…
POINT 2 PONDER:
‘Children are human and they do make mistakes. We must be in a position as custodians to differentiate between their errors which are as a result of their human frailties and errors, which are borne out of rebellion.’
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