Child’s Rights and Discipline: The Lost Theory (8)

Opening Charge

‘Discipline or chastisement is not an end in itself. It is both a means and an end…Discipline as a means requires a lot of work and patience. It requires extremely discipline and skill on the side of the custodians to ensure that the process goes it’s full circle and it is not truncated or tainted by abuse. Discipline as an end is the glory of the process. It is a final proof of the efficacy of discipline as a process. When discipline completes its full process, it produces disciplined children, who become the pride of the custodians.’

Hello friends and custodians, sure you are doing well. I hope found my piece on children interesting. I move very quickly today to continue our journey on child’s rights and discipline. I will share with you today the third and the fourth tested habits of a purposeful, disciplined and effective disciplinarian:

3. Set out the mission to discipline and the mission thereof:

Discipline or chastisement is not an end in itself. It is both a means and an end. I must say therefore that the custodian must understand the tenets of discipline as a means and an end. Discipline is a means because it is a process of boosting the self-image of the child. It is an end because it produces a disciplined child.

Discipline as a means requires a lot of work and patience. It requires extremely discipline and skill on the side of the custodians to ensure that the process goes it’s full circle and it is not truncated or tainted by abuse. Discipline as an end is the glory of the process. It is a final proof of the efficacy of discipline as a process. When discipline completes its full process, it produces disciplined children, who become the pride of the custodians. When a custodian considers the glory and joy of raising a disciplined child, he/she would be encouraged to do things right despite all the sacrifices involved. By disciplined child, here, I talk about a complete child, who is fit to handle the challenges of life. A disciplined child is equipped with life skills, which makes put him on top of life issues as he/she transits to adulthood. Discipline will make a responsible adult father wife, husband, leader and all.

4. Communicate to the child his interest

It is a habit of many custodians not to explain the purpose of discipline to the child. Many are too impatient to explain to the child why he or she is being disciplined. When custodians attempt to explain they do a very poor and selfish job of pointing the consequences of the child’s wrong action or omission to everyone except the child. They talk about the consequences to the family, the neighbours, the community, the school and all others concerned.

When the child sits down to consider the discipline experience, he/she does not see his/her interest protected. He /she sees that the process is not in any way for his/her benefits but the benefits of others. He does not see discipline as a tool for seeking personal change but a process he/she must endure to make everyone happy.

The child’s motivation for following the instructions, for which he/her is been chastised dwindles. This method of discipline reveals the mind of the custodians that he/she does not embark on the discipline exercise for the best interest of the child.

This method produces in the child the following two responses:

First, the child begins to lose confidence in the discipline process, becomes angry and seeks how to protect his/her own interest.

Second, the child may not understand the need for him/her to be committed to personal development or change. Where he is able to figure out the need for personal development, he/she may not see self-discipline as one of the most veritable tools for personal development. He/she may be found making every effort in the direction of personal change except taking responsibility for personal responsibility for self-discipline.

I beg to take my leave at this point. Please join me tomorrow as I continue this interesting journey. Stay INSPIRED.

I’m Taiwo Akinlami & I Lead the TeacherFIRE™ Revolution

POINT 2 PONDER:

‘I must say therefore that the custodian must understand the tenets of discipline as a means and an end. Discipline is a means because it is a process of boosting the self-image of the child. It is an end because it produced a disciplined child.’

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