Between SEX & SEXUALITY: WHAT DO OUR PRECIOUS CHILDREN KNOW?: Raising An ALARM!!!

FORWARD
This is an ALARM!!! like no other…Though it is longer than usual, it raises critical issues about the well-being of our precious children, which you MUST read, understand and DEFEND for POSTERITY sake…I await your comments after the long read. Thank you sirs & mas…If is for the preservation of the gentle souls of our precious children, methinks it is worth the TIME & SWEAT…

THERE FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN
There is fire on the mountain, my fellow primary and secondary caregivers…

My field experience, interactions with our precious children and fellow caregivers reveal to me beyond a shadow of doubt  that we have a very serious moral crisis in our hands today. As serious as it is, it is yet insidious, surreptitious and seemingly innocuous…Subtly and silently devouring the soul and morality of our children like a little fox, which is yet mighty in its Irreparably negative impact.

Alas, our children are exposed…They are over-exposed to sex, its knowledge, practices and perversions. I mean they are not only exposed to the knowledge, they engage or indulge themselves in the act.

AN ERA OF UNGUARDED SOCIALIZATION
You do not need to look too far to see the validation of my submission…With unguarded socialization today, which promote sex as the acceptable social language of interaction of the 21st Century, they are bound to know more than enough and necessary…From music, movies, adverts to social media, we see a large population of primary and secondary caregivers, who are not only unaware of their role and responsibility of censorship but have completely lost hold of same…We even have instances, where the caregivers are the ones exposing the children to sex-inundated materials in the name of music, movies and entertainment.

MY CONCERN
My concern today is that our children know so much about sex, its practices and multi-dimensional perversions, which have terrible physical and psychological impact on them…The extensiveness of their knowledge will only shock the naïve caregivers, who are either oblivious or pretend to be oblivious of the fact that children by the design of nature take after the dominant nature of their environment…It is called socialization…The child’s behaviour today is a function of his/her psychology…But his/her psychology is a function of his/her socialization…That is why I keep saying that socialization is superior to psychology…

SEX  OR SEXUALITY: WHICH IS HOT THE CAKE?
My concern today is that children’s knowledge of SEX far far outweigh their knowledge of their SEXUALITY. In fact I make bold to say that our children seem to know everything about SEX and almost nothing about their SEXUALITY. Recently, we were dealing with the case of a 3(three) old boy who was climbing girl children in his class. The other day I was invited by a school to deal with the issue of a 12 year old boy in Junior Secondary school, who derived pleasure from touching the breasts of female students and running away…It became a very rampant habit the necessitated sending him on suspension after several warnings and meeting with his parents. The school was amazed that upon resumption, the child resumed the habit. The school was on the verge of expelling the child, as his case seemed irredeemable…

SEXUALITY IS BIGGER THAN SEX
SEXUALITY is far bigger than SEX…I make bold to say that SEX is a minute part of SEXUALITY, where SEX is properly defined as the legitimate, intimate, covenant-based and above all divinely-ordained exercise between a man and a woman, who are married.

SEX AS PROMOTED TO OUR PRECIOUS CHILDREN TODAY
Please note that the perverted SEX to which our children are exposed to today is far-apart different from the one defined above. SEX, as it is presented and vigorously promoted to our children today speaks of an uncontrollable heat of sexual passion, which possesses children, young people and unmarried couples of opposite sex or same same to engage in all forms of sexual relationships, from foreplay, oral sex to sexual intercourse. Besides, our children are being told that there are other sexual orientations or sexes other than the 2(male and female), which God ordained. At my last count, we are told that there are over 58(fifty-eight) genders and this is widely promoted by the social media platforms, where most our children now spend most of their time and life uncensored. For example, Facebook has 3 columns for GENDER, namely, MALE, FEMALE and CUSTOM. Under CUSTOM, there are 58(fifty-eight) genders listed. You are also asked, ‘what pronoun do you prefer?’ The options are: MALE: him, FEMALE: her and NEUTRAL: them…The social media platform provides opportunity for users to select more than one gender. Research has shown that there are over 20 million children on Facebook, the social media platform’s terms of service having require users to be at least 13 years old…Of the 20 million children, 7.5 million are below age 13, while 5 million are age 10 and below, who didn’t properly represent their real age. As at 2013 statistics reveal that there are 11 million Facebook users in Nigeria and the most popular age group are Nigerians under 25 years old.

SEXUALITY: MY WORKING UNDERSTANDING
SEXUALITY here refers to the ESSENCE of a person’s gender and his/her attitude to same.   SEXUALITY speaks to the physiological and psychological specifications of the male and female genders, their functions and differences. SEXUALITY addresses the relationship between the male and female genders and how they seamlessly partner according to the dictates of their distinct natural specifications in divine order to achieve God’s eternal purpose for the creation of man(male and female). SEXUALITY speaks of the GLORY and BEAUTY  in the difference between the male and female genders and the DIGNITY of EQUALITY of both genders.

HAVE WE LOST CONTROL?
Today’s caregivers seem to have lost control in the face of over democratization of media platforms…They are not able to define the pressure, not to talk accepting the need to  acquire the requisite and inevitable skills to deal with same in the best interest of the child.

Today, the media, in connivance with the ignorant and unconscious primary and secondary caregivers does not teach our children about their SEXUALITY…As I can see today, there is no agenda in horizon on the part of today’s media, its promoters and investors and the ignorant primary and secondary caregivers to change their course of actions. The promoters and investors of the media smile to the banks, destroying the destiny of our precious children, cruising comfortably at a very high altitude on the ignorance and nonchalance of the primary and secondary caregivers.

WEAK AGENDA…WEAK RESULTS
The agenda of those who know better and seek to represent the protection of children from this war of indecent exposure and bastardization of their God-given and priceless gift of SEXUALITY is very high in unguarded anger and sporadic intervention. The agenda of the defenders of our children is very weak in vision, strategy, tactics, persistency, selflessness and sense of mission. We often think that a good cause succeeds simply because it is good. Unknown to us, causes, good or bad succeed because of the unalloyed commitment of their apologists to finding and adhering to superior strategy, using the inevitable instrumentalities of critical thinking and intelligence. I guess that is why Montesquieu said, ‘power does not shift except for superior power.’

SEXUALITY ABUSE: MY FURTHER DEFINITION
I have long argued that exposing children to inappropriate media contents, with direct sexual contents or innuendos constitutes nothing but sexual abuse as it perverts the children’s understanding of their sexuality. The implication of the foregoing is that it puts our precious children in a sad situation, where they participate actively in their own abuse either as perpetrated by a peer or an adult.

NO TO LIP SERVICE
My charge today is that all the lip services must stop, all the attention grabbing and hypocrisy must be repented of. Our precious children are far more sexually active than we are aware of or ready to admit.

SOBERING CONCLUSION
It is my very SOBER and well considered conclusion today that as we read this piece, we must make a strategic commitment to reserve the present ugly tide, which prepare and serve our children as ready prey of self and consensual sexual abuse to their peers and adults. We must begin serious conversations as adults and with our children, which aim is to help our children to discover their SEXUALITY as a mental and spiritual tool to understand the essence of their genders and how to take adequate and informed steps to preserve, protect, defend and celebrate same.

It is CHILDHOOD and its GLORY which come under vicious but subtle attack when our precious children are sexually abused through exposure to inappropriate materials.

OUR i-Protect4TWEENS&TWEENS ACADEMY
Like never before we have decided to take up the gauntlet of ENLIGHTENMENT and EMPOWERMENT through the launching of our i-Protect4TWEENS&TWEENS Academy on Saturday, October 24, 2015. It is bi-monthly academy, which is aimed to EMPOWER a minimum of 25(twenty-five) TWEENAGERS(8-12) and TEENAGERS on Personal Safety and Self-Protection.

Our other plans to stem this tide in our own little way, as we hope to gain more grounds shall be unfolded as we are good to go.

SOBER ON MY KNEES ON THE LORD’S DAY
Thank you for taking time out of your very busy schedule to ready this piece of advocacy, flowing from the depth of my heart as I remain SOBER on my knees and in the SPIRIT on this LORD’S Day. Do have an INSPIRED week.
Taiwo Akinlami

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2 thoughts on “Between SEX & SEXUALITY: WHAT DO OUR PRECIOUS CHILDREN KNOW?: Raising An ALARM!!!

  1. victor September 27, 2015 / 5:30 pm

    Thank you Sir for this brilliant and beautiful piece.

    It’s saddens me, seeing all that happens around and it’s like everyone now accepts it as the norm. Music that should uplift now demoralizes in an unbelievable manner, movies, adverts, posters. Nakedness and indecency is used to sell and promote everything.

    No wonder breast enlargement procedures, butt implementation have skyrocketed cos of this battle of sex sex sex. Girls buy under wears that make their breasts look bigger (they call them padded or push ups), and they now have padded tights that make their butt look twice the normal size. Everyone wants to be sexy.

  2. Tesem September 29, 2015 / 5:47 am

    I must commend you for taking this initiative.
    I do however need to point out that reaching out to children from 8 might be too late.
    The average child has had his or her first sexual experience in life by the age of 5. I know that most of us parents would rather live in denial of this but it happens; either by seeing inappropriate stuff or by actually being engaged in a sexual act by someone they trust. Research has shown that 80% of one’s personality is formed by 5. So I would like to suggest starting to work with children earlier.
    Cheers

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