‘The bitter truth is that the unskilful attempt of my parents to instil ‘discipline’ in me was a total failure as I became a direct opposite of their desire. My father could not read between the lines that his method was not working. If it was working why did he have to repeat the torturous protracted canning exercise time over time?’
Hello friends. Sure you had a great weekend. I here this morning to keep a promise I made to my conscience upon the instruction I received from my Maker to print to the very front burner of private and public conscience the rights and responsibilities of the African Child for due respect in the best interest of the child.
Let me begin to fulfil this life-long mandate today by telling my story as I continue our discussion on discipline. Sadly, physical abuse was the order of the day, growing up. When I was accused of one or more of the unwritten and unknown rules in our home, my father would tie my hands and legs with ropes. He would pick one of his favourite newspapers, The Punch to read. He would keep me like that for almost a day, while he would give me at least six strokes of the cane every hour as he read newspaper.
The whole scene cut the picture of an adult, who took advantage of a young person because he had the power to. I did not see that the actions were being taken for my good. I felt my dad was against me and would go to any length to show it. My wrongs were not explained to me and I did not know the basis of the exercise (protracted canning) and the results it sought to achieve. I grew up bearing on my body and psyche, the marks of those days of mental and physical torture, called training. When I got into the university, it was not fashionable for me to remove my clothes in the presence of my roommates, considering the many scars on my back.
My parents chastised me for everything I did wrong and was never commended for anything I did right. I grew up believing there was nothing good about me. I felt a high sense of utter rejection!
Let with announce without any fear of contradiction that any unskilful attempt at discipline will not only fail woefully in respect of the children bit will end in acute frustration. I speak with so much assurance because of my experiences, which I have taken time to share with you above. The bitter truth is that the unskilful attempt of my parents to instil ‘discipline’ in me was a total failure as I became a direct opposite of their desire. My father could not read between the lines that his method was not working. If it was working why did he have to repeat the torturous protracted canning exercise time over time?
My parents meant well and wanted to raise a disciplined child but they could not skilfully communicate their intention to me. Thus I concluded that they were against me. Such conclusions created hardness of heart and a deliberate attempt to seek retaliation in my own little way. Consciously or unconsciously, I think there was a decision well erected in my inner being to act contrary to instructions and expect the worst outcome, protracted canning.
I think our space id up. I promise you that this discussion will continue tomorrow. Thank you for joining me today. Sure you found the time here worth the time. Stay INSPIRED.
I’m Taiwo Akinlami & I Lead the TeacherFIRE™ Revolution
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‘My parents chastised me for everything I did wrong and was never commended for anything I did right. I grew up believing there was nothing good about me. I felt a high sense of utter rejection!’
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