My dear friends and fellow stakeholders, sure you are doing well today with the family. How are you preparing for Christmas and New Year celebrations? I am sure you have terrific plans to make this season unforgettable for the children and you. I believe seasons like this give us a picture of how we must celebrate our children. I advise custodians not to save all the fun that our children deserve till this season. Our children must have a taste of Christmas from us daily. The season of Christmas should be the grand finale of fun for our children. If we deny our children of fun all year, it will make no sense to them if we shower them all the fun once in a year. One year of no-affection and attention cannot be written off by one day of Christmas.
Christmas is a season of love. I think there is no better time to show love than this season, where God decided to show us unmerited love. I hear a lot of custodians, who tell me they love their children. When I ask them what love means to children, they are not able to define it in clear terms. Love to children simply means attention and appreciation. It is our supreme responsibility to give our children attention and appreciate them.
Attention demands quality time with our children. Attention is the seed of deep and meaningful relationship with our children. It is made possible by our disciplined commitment to spent time with our children. Our children do not care how much we claim to know about them until they know how much we care. They do not know how much we care until we give them undiluted attention.
Appreciation begins with acceptance. We must accept our children and convince them that we do. How do we show them we accept them? It is by respecting them for their individuality. A child’s individuality is the mark of his originality and distinctiveness. Custodians must do all to help the child to be conscious of his individuality and defend same. It means accepting our children for who they are particularly their physical features and peculiar mannerism. Acceptance of our children is to accept them as if they have no fault.
Acceptance of the child will lead the custodians to appreciate the child. It stops the menace of comparison. It simply means custodians will not compare a child to another, siblings or neighbours. Someone said and I verily agree with him, ‘comparison changes the value of a thing.’ Many custodians did not see anything wrong with their children until they met another child, who they believe is better than their children. They begin to compare their children to another child, whom they have met in his glory. When they do this they forget that this child, who they see in his glory has his own time of shame and that their own children have their time of glory.
Many want to appreciate a child, who they have not accepted. When a child is appreciated, the custodians sow the seed of transformation through inspiration. If we want our children to be better, we must celebrate them for who they are today.
I have said a lot today and I am not sure I have been able to pass a clear message across. I guess what I am trying to say is that it is good when we celebrate our children during the Christmas season. It is best when we celebrate them daily.
I am out of here. My series, 12 Attributes of a Child-Friendly Workplace is again put on hold to address our discussion of today. I urge you friends, Think the Child, Think Today, Think the Future. Do have an INSPIRED weekend.